Post # 1
What do you think about letting the BMs pick their dress, as long as it’s in the same color scheme (lilac), and it’s in the knee-just above the knee in length?
My BMs are all different body types and heights, so I think it’s fair to let them pick it out (with my approval!!).
Also, (on a side note) what type of shoe should I do for them? My colors are lilac, cream, green and light pink. The ‘main’ color is lilac though. It’s an outdoor wedding on the grass. I’ll be wearing tall cream wedges, so maybe just let them pick their own, as long as the shoe is cream?
Post # 3
I am fully in support for letting the choice be up to them, with the same color and material. I think it’s pretty challenging to find dresses that work for everyone if the body type is different, and I think it’s nice to allow them to pick a dress that works well for their body type. That’s what I’m planning on doing with my bridesmaids…also, that way I think the dresses can be more reflective of their personality. (3 of them already picked theirs out, and the 4th is making hers. I think the styles all suit them really well, and look nice on them! 🙂 )
And in regards to shoes, I’d say it’s nice to stick with a color and let them choose the shoe. My friend recently got married, and she had us all wear strappy silver sandles (sandels?) with the same dress. (She somehow managed to find a dress that looked good on all of us). But it was nice with the shoe option…I was able to find a pair at Payless (since I didn’t want to spend a lot), and other people in the wedding party were able to pay more for nicer shoes.
So, I am in full support of choice. I think it allows people to feel more comfortable, and takes away the stress of forcing different body types into a similar style.
Post # 4
I think it’s a great idea. I’ve seen pictures of weddings like this and it actually looks nicer to me – gives it a little uniqueness and not super formal or machy matchy. I think your bridesmaids will like picking oput their own dresses too.
Post # 5
My posse picked out their dresses which were the same color, shoes, and jewelry. I gave them no guidelines on shoes or jewelry and they did an awesome job.
Post # 6
I think its a great idea. I saw a picture in a magazine where all the BM’s dresses were pastel colours and similar in style – but no two were exactly the same. I think it would look really cool! And cream shoes would work well I think.
Post # 7
This is what I did and they loved having that option. I gave them a place to get the dress and colors. I let them all pick different dresses. It was so much less stressful for everyone and they were all really comfortable the day of my wedding. I like it better because it looks less ‘bridal army’. They all went together without being too matchy. I say go for it 🙂
Post # 8
this is what i’m doing too. i like the look of it and especially when you have girls in different shapes and sizes, everyone ends up looking and feeling better (IMO). as for shoes, i think it’s fine to specify a color but i’d let them choose their own.
Post # 9
That’s what I’m doing…Alfred Angelo, floor length in “teal”…they pick the dress! They all loved the idea, but there has been some drama regarding each of them being SO overly worried about if they look good enough in their dress choice. Some of them took longer to pick their dress than I did in picking mine!!! I think it’ll all be worth it when I see them in thier dresses though, I think it’s going be gorgeously ecclectic!
Post # 10
That’s exactly what I’m doing for my bridemaids! They can pick whatever style they want as long as the dress length and color are the same. I think it looks awesome and lets each girl show off their body how they want to. My girls run from a size 00 (barely-should be in a child size) to an 18 and everything in between. I dont want anyone to feel uncomfortable.
Post # 11
I think it’s a great idea but be ready with some examples just in case some of your bridesmaids get worried that they’ll pick something “wrong” and want some more input from you – a picture really can speak a thousand words in that case.
Post # 12
That’s what I did – I chose a color and length and let each girl pick her own dress. I wanted the dresses to be the exact same color so I chose a specific store/color and didn’t just say “go buy a purple dress.” But I’ve seen wedding parties in different shades of the same color and they look great! I also just chose a color for shoes and let them pick their own, that way everyone was comfortable.
To tie everyone together, I gave them matching jewelry as part their bridesmaids gift. Their bouquets were all the same, and the ribbon wrap on theirs matched mine.
Post # 13
My plan is to let my BMs pick thier own dress. I was orig going to say a black coctail dress, but I think they might blend it to much with the guests that way, but I know the same dress is not going to look good on everyone so the styles will def be different for each girl.
Post # 14
It’s a GREAT idea! I will be doing the same thing! I have some already picked out that they can chose from but as long as its knee length, same color, and fabric just to keep some uniformity about it I’ll going to let them go for it. I think the easiest way is to just pick one designer so different colors won’t be a issue. I will be using Romantic Bridals for my BM dresses. I think they’ll be truly happy about how they look and are more likely to wear again. Here’s some pics of a wedding one of BM photographed.
Post # 15
Thanks for all of the advice and i LOVE the pictures! the photos just solidified my idea.
I also found a picture where they were in pastels, but in the same style and i love that too, @PrairieGirl!
I’ll let you know how it goes – all of my BM’s live in different areas of CA, and one is in AZ, so I hope it doesn’t turn into a fiasco. Trying to be a ‘laid back bride’ for my girls will be easy until it’s not 🙂
Post # 16
I’m doing the same color but different dresses for my bridesmaids. I have seven bridesmaids, and they all have their own styles that are very different from each other, and all are different body types. I picked the color Marine from David’s Bridal (not quite as dark as a navy blue), and told all the girls to pick a dress they felt comfortable in. Two of the girls are a bit on the “busty” side, and 1 other BM just doesn’t like wearing strapless… I love strapless dresses, so if I would have picked one dress for all of them, my choice would have most likely been strapless. I wanted each girl to be comfortable, and be able to choose a dress in their price range, too. I think it’ll work out well, and they’ll have a dress they could probably wear again if they wanted to!