Post # 1
I knew that getting married in a catholic church the pair had to invest time (saturdays or sundays for about a month or two) with the church to talk to you about marriage. When the lady gave me the FOCCUS brochure it said that we had to go away to a retreat for a weekend.
I was not looking forward to it but i’ll rather spend a weekend rather than going for an entire month or two. To come and find out that it wasnt as bad as I expected it to be. The couple preaching to us talked to us and tested are relationship. It was more like a workshop. RELATIONSHIP WORKSHOP. Most people say that after coming out of one of those they come out arguing. Not us at least.
We came out of there closer than ever and with new friends!!! What a great way to meet new people. The soon to be brides all stayed in one house and the soon to be husbands in another.
To all the couples that will be going to the FOCCUS RETREAT…It is a good thing to go. At the end they will give you the 8-hour certificate that you need in order for the priest to marry you. 😉
Post # 3
Congrats on your certificate! I’m so glad that you had a nice experience with this! We took our test with the church and I’m not sure what I was so worried about. It was like a giant (serious) Cosmo quiz! We went to the retreat a few weeks later and they gave us a workbook called Perspectives On Marriage. It was really helpful and it brought our minds back to what was really important. We’re still working on the activities!
Post # 4
I have heard nothing but good things about the FOCCUS retreat. We are not having a Catholic ceremony but are going ahead with the pre-marital counseling since friends have said it really helped with their relationship. We were both raised Catholic but not practicing, but I am excited for all that time to just, pardon the pun, focus on our relationship.
Post # 5
Well, i was worried for a bit. My sister married in the same church in 97 and whenever they would end the wkend hourly class they would come out so mad at each other. But as soon as I heard they didnt do that through the church anymore i was relieved. We were blessed with something a little better. Overall good experience. We had to write each other a letter at the end about being ready to commit ourselves to each other. It was a nice experience. Let’s just say we both made each other sign the letters because it had so many promises that we made to each other. Im pretty sure we will go back to them once in awhile just to make sure we are keeping our word 😉