(Closed) "different" wedding–having second thoughts?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would probably not go and its not b/c of crossing the border, thats not  a big deal, it would be way too expensive for us to attend.  Thats $500 + for 2 nights, and would would have to stay 2 nights b/c if you are paying to fly nobody wants to just come in for a night so  plus travel expensies which are probably at least $400+ so you are looking at your guests spending 1000 for juat a weekend for your wedding. 

To go to a friends wedding I would be willing to spend $80-$150 a night for a hotel room.   

This will prob. be a very small family affair like just very close immidiate family and if you are ok with that then go for it!!!!  I dont think you will have too many people RSVP yes. 

Post # 4
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@niagara-bride:  I would definitely go, but then again, I live in Rochester, NY.  The whole idea is definitely fun and the wineries are beautiful (and delicious!), but when it comes to hotels, I try to spend at the most $150 a night.  Have you looked into hotels that may be a little further outside of the area?  Maybe even having a hotel in the United States could save you some money.  That’s the nice part of Niagara-on-the-Lake, it’s right on the border!  Buffalo is the closest US city and has decent hotels at decent prices.  I remember staying at the Marriott a couple of years ago and I think we spent $180 for the night but with two people staying in the room, we split it evenly.

As for the passport issue, your wedding isn’t until next year so it gives people a chance to go and get their passport now.  NYS offers enhanced driver’s licenses but I’m not sure about other states.  

Post # 5
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@niagara-bride:  I actually think it’s a pretty cool wedding idea! I personally would try my best to attend if I were invited (and it were for a good friend or family member). However, just be mindful that whenever you do a “destination” wedding, the guest count are usually going to be significantly lower than a “traditional” wedding.

Also, as I mentioned above, if I received an invite from a good friend or family member I would try to come, but if it were a co-worker, distant relative, or perhaps an old friend I’ve lost touch with, I probably  wouldn’t. So with that said, those that are closest to you and genuinly love and care about you two will definitely find a way to come share your special day. I don’t think you shouild change your plans to accomodate everyone, because you certainly won’t please everyone no matter what you do! I think you should do what YOU want, it is your day!

Post # 7
1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Beautiful hotel, I’ve looked at it myself online for my Ontario nuptials, but ended up selecting somewhere else.  My family is from Ohio as well so I know what you’re up against geographically.  So let me point out a couple issues. 

Are your guests going to be flying or driving?

This is pretty important.  My fiance and I recently drove from near Toledo, just over the Michigan border to Toronto and it was a really long drive, I think 4 hours.

Cleveland to Niagara-On-The-Lake is roughly 4 hours, are your guests willing to drive that?  If they fly the nearest airport is I believe in Niagara Falls and they would have to then drive from there or go to the cost of a very expensive taxi ride.

Not saying don’t do it, but I’m saying to be aware of that aspect of it.  Good luck! 

Post # 8
1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@niagara-bride:  If you are inviting 46 people and its a destination wedding where people have to pay for expensive hotel and airfair i think your estimate of 35-40 people is REALLY high, especially if they have to fly.  People with a non destination wedding end up with about 80% of the guest list so I think you may have to lower the # of people you think will actually come.     

  I dont know your people but I would guess you will prob end up with 20 about who will actually  RSVP yes and that may even be a high estimate.  Just dont want you to be dissapointed or surprised when you dont have as many people there as you thought you would

Post # 9
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I love that wedding idea! I agree with PP- I wouldn’t worry about the passport issue (you can get one in a month if you have to), you do need a less expensive hotel, and you probably will have fewer guests than you’re expecting, due to the travel involved. If you’re going to rent a bus for the wine tour, it could take your guests to a less expensive hotel, as well.

Post # 11
8 posts

@niagara-bride:  Niagara on the Lake is beautiful!  Great wedding location and it’s awesome that there’s a perfect activity that goes along with it (aka wine tasting!).  A four hour drive?  that’s nothing!  at least to me 🙂  I feel that the people who are important and close to you would not consider four hours to be excessively long.  Especially when you’re getting away for the whole weekend.  It’s great that your guests are considering it a weekend to treat themselves!

I actually looked into planning a girls getaway weekend to NOTL last summer and found that vrbo.com (vacation rentals by owner – have you heard of it?) had some great places available and it might mean more people can stay together.  It’s basically a site that people list their vacation properties for rental.  I’ve used them a couple of times for various weddings that I’ve gone to in North America and have stayed in some great places.  Anyways, just a suggestion that might be helpful to some of your guests.


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