Post # 1
Need to rant to someone about this!
I go to college about 2 hours away from my hometown. My SO stays at our hometown for his job while I go away to college during the year. Everytime family members find out SO is staying here while I go away to college I get “the look”. The oh no are you breaking up look why do you need to go to college look…I’ve gotten “the look” several times by people the last few weeks. It’s starting to get frustrating especially from my 90 year old great grandma who keeps asking when we’re getting married and why do I have to go away for school. Me and my mother have both explained to her and to other people that I’m only 20 and have 2 years of college to finish.
How should I handle the family get together we’re having tonight I’m starting to run out things to say when the family bombards me with questions. They obviously can’t get it threw their heads that I need a education before marriage :/
Post # 3
They are probably giving you “that look” because experience and statistics don’t generally look favourably at your situation. LDRs are notorious for not working out and there is reason for the term “turkey-dump”. Many a young person has gone off to college, met someone who eclipses the one at home and choses them to be with. It’s not what necessarily will happen to you and SO, but you’ve got to understand there’s a probability there most people will side with.
You’re response should be polite but to the point so they don’t feel the need to keep probing. You are also allowed at anypoint to tell them nicely it’s none of their business. Try something like:
“Thanks for your concern. SO & I realise that the next two years will require effort from both parties to maintain our relationship long distance. However, we discussed it and both of us agree that me getting an education is of the utmost importance to ensure our success. We are committed to making it work both now and in the future”
Post # 4
I agree with musicalrose, unfortunately probability is against you on this one. However , that doesn’t mean you two can’t make it work 🙂 I like the suggestion given for a response too.
If it helps at all, I’ve been in a LDR for about a year and a half now and we’re making it work (moving to him in November, getting married in January) so obviously even though the numbers are against us, that doesn’t mean we’re doomed to fail. Good for you for putting your education first and good luck with dealing with the family! 🙂