(Closed) Difficult Maid of Honor. What's your advice?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
8706 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@canajen:  Is the shower intended to be a surprise? If not, I would talk to the bride bc the MOH sounds a bit ridiculous.

Definite issues I see:

11AM?! Really? who would want to go to a shower that early unless it is some sort of breakfast/early brunch tea…even then I wouldnt be there at 11

outside? Like you said, what if it rains? 

Post # 4
Hostess
7568 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I agree, I’d talk to the bride. She’s probably closest to the MOH and can tell her what’s up. 

Post # 5
Member
8004 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I have no other advice than to talk to the bride, but this is insane. If you are this fussy, you either need to cook the food yourself, or to rent a hall somewhere. There’s nothing wrong with holding strict kosher, but you can’t expect everyone else to do the same, or to bend over backwards like this!

Post # 6
Member
805 posts
Busy bee

An outdoors shower might be ok depending on where you are/what time of year it is, and maybe plastic plates and cutlery would work ok. Will she not let anyone at all have a glass of champagne just because she’s pregnant?!

If it’s not a surprise then I’d talk to the bride, otherwise you probably have to suck it up.

Post # 7
Member
8004 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Right.. I’ve rethought this. The most logical solution I can think of is that the MOH will have to tell everyone to only bring vegetarian food to the potluck. I think you need to be allowed in her house, and to use her facilities and plates, knives, forks etc, if she’s dead set on having it at her house.

You can’t tell people to bring kosher only food, because a lot of people don’t understand exactly what strict kosher entails. However, you can ask them to bring vegetarian or vegan only meals, which solves at least half of your problem. You could even make it part of the theme!

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