(Closed) Difficulty balancing friends and FI/Hubby?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Friends that cannot understand that the FH comes first are not friends IMO.  I had several friends that continually tried to hijack me from the FH.  It got to the point where I had to cut their access to me to a minimum.  My true friends rose to the top like cream and are always supportive and understanding.  My mother always said you have a truly blessed life if you have a few true friends and many acquaintances.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Ick, the dreaded situation of balancing friends and marriage. I had a friend who would always put her hand between my fiance and mine’s face when we kissed goodbye and say “GIRLS NIGHT NO BOYS ALLOWED!” She was always single yet Mother Hen’ed everyone else.

 

So anyways, I don’t think you are being a bad friend at all. It isn’t like you are spending every waking moment with your fiance and since you two have only one night to spend a week, if your friends cannot respect that then it is time to set some boundaries. Tell them that although you consider everyone friends and will always be there for them, there are times that you need to spend with your fiance. Perhaps they could schedule their girls night on the nights that you are free but your fiance is at work.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i used to have more of an issue with this, but as more and more of my friends have settled into serious relationships and have gotten engaged, it’s been a lot easier….nights out are more often than not done as couples. once or twice a year some of my friends will go away for a girls’ weekend, but other than that, SOs are generally welcome.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

oh and i meant to add that you are not being a bad friend at all, in fact i’d venture to say that if anything, your friends are being bad friends to you by expecting you to always choose them over your FH. you already spend a few nights a week with them, they should be more understanding of the fact that you and the FH need time together too!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

If they can’t understand, they are not friends. Maybe you could try making friends with other married couples.

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