Post # 1
me and my fiance have gone back and forth on how big our wedding party is going to be and its my biggest stress. he wants at least 4 or 5 of his closest high school/college friends. i obviously want my sister. but this is my biggest problem, i dont have really any girlfriends, lots of mutual friends from work and such but no one i would consider being a bridesmaid. i have cousins, but they are a lot older then me and i would rather them attend as guest. i have my cousins step daughter who i could ask, but to be honest i hardly know her. i know this is an odd situation that most people dont have but i feel bad that my only option is having a MOH. what should i do? should i even worry about this.
Post # 2
Don’t worry about it! I think you will be glad to spend that day with your best source of support, rather than trying to meet any sort of expectation. It is also a tradition in Europe to have a solo MOH, just so you know. I think it is great you feel close enough to your sister to ask her to be your MOH.
Post # 3
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
Kslim13: You could have male friends or family. You can have an uneven party.
Post # 4
Personally, I don’t think it’s a big deal if the numbers of attendants are uneven. I’m having two and my fiance decided he didn’t want any. Far better to have uneven numbers than ask people you aren’t comfortable with to be BMs. BMs seem to cause enough stress without having people you barely know up there with you.
Post # 5
Kslim13: Does he have one brother or best friend? You could put it to him that if he only has one guy up there (i.e. a best man and no one else), it’s not so bad on the others being left out. (And let’s face it, apart from best man and MOH, the bridal party has no role except as props in the photos).
He could include most or all of the other guys by having them be ushers or do a reading. He could still include all his best friends in some photos too.