Post # 1
I have tried on around 30 dresses and my time is running out. It’s exactly 6 months until wedding day. My wedding is in November, 2013 but I have to leave the State around end of October. So I have found the one I love and it looks stunning, with a lot of beadings and crystals. It is strapless, sweetheart, long train, lace hemline, the top has a deep slit in the center that’s covered with lace to give a sexy yet modest look… It is everything that I look for in a dress, and as my friend said “it is sooo you”. I wish I was allowed to take photo to post here for you Bees. Anyway, I feel so beautiful in it. However, it came to the price tag of $2,600 + $350 alteration = $2,950. I was devastated because it is almost $1,000 over my budget
There was another one from the same designer, same shape, just not bling out and the top is not as special as the other one, just regular sweet heart. The quality is still amazing.
I told my Fiance and he said “$3,000 is not worth it for a dress that you only wear once. Everyone is not going to pay attention to the detail of your dress, just going to see if your face is pretty that day or not” !!???!!!
He said I should get the $1,600 dress from Maggie Sottero that I tried on or something around that price point. >.<
If I don’t get my dream dress, I will spend extra money on diamond wedding ring. I am so sad every time I think of my dream dress. What do you Bees think? Does it worth it?
P/S: I will pay for the dress but we consider it our money after all. Should I settle for less and spend on other things? Sorry for poorly written post.
Post # 3
This is just my opinion, but…
Wedding ring = 50+ years of wear
Wedding dress = 7 hours of wear
HOWEVER, if you want a simple gold band anyway, or it looks better with your ring, etc. or you don’t care to have the diamonds on it, then spend the money on your dress, girl!
Post # 4
I voted “other”. I am with your Fiance. That’s an outrageous amount of money for a dress worn once. Also, there’s ten million more of those types of dresses out there! My vote is to keep looking for something within your price range.
Also, I’d much rather spend money on nice jewlery I plan to wear every day than on a dress.
Post # 5
@goldfish2308: maybe i should add something else.
my original dress budget was $5000. I wanted a Lazaro. however, when Fiance gave me a Tacori ring, I realized I had to choose between the $5000 dress or a matching band for my e-ring. I chose the ring for the reason I listed above. I got a $1200 Allure dress and it is GORGEOUS. i even tried on up to $2000 dresses and the Allure was the winner. keep shopping!
Post # 6
Personally I’d spend it on the wedding ring rather than the dress, but thats just me. I would have a really hard time spending an exorbitant amount of money on a wear-one-time dress.
My dress budget was $2500 and I actually ended up falling completely in love with a JCrew wedding dress that was only $1000! Funny thing is my first choice dress when I first got engaged was a $6,000 Amsale. Well I put that out of my mind pretty quick, because $6,000 for a dress? Um no. But my JCrew dress looks so eerily similar to the Amsale and they are compared to one another all the time! Maybe you can keep looking, albeit you don’t have a lot of time, and try to find something similar to the style you fell in love with in your dream dress? Or maybe find it used?
Post # 7
Hmm. What is your total wedding budget?
Post # 8
@Arrowchan: A little bit about my wedding: we are having wedding in Guangzhou, China. It is about 140 guests wedding. My Future parents in law are paying for the reception, we only have to buy flowers and deco which we think will be around $5,000. So flowers, air tix, photography and trips will come to $10,000.
Post # 9
Oh and although Guangzhou has the whole street of wedding shops, I don’t have the confident of finding “the one” there within 2 weeks before the wedding. And I highly doubt the quality if I buy there
Post # 10
@TwoStatesBride: HOWEVER, if you want a simple gold band anyway, or it looks better with your ring, etc. or you don’t care to have the diamonds on it, then spend the money on your dress, girl! +1
Do you want a diamond wedding band? I only wanted a plain band, so I spent roughly 40x more on my dress than my ring. I didn’t feel like I was “settling” since I wanted the cheap, plain band.
Post # 11
@goldfish2308: Yeah, I definitely don’t think you would want to do that! If you are open to the idea of a replica dress, however, Jasmine’s Bridal Shop seems to get very good reviews.
As for the wedding band, it really depends what you want. Have you tried on bands and decided on one yet? You may find you prefer a plainer or cheaper band.
Post # 12
You’ll wear the dress for one day. You’ll wear the ring EVERY day. Personally I’d rather get a cheaper dress if I could get a ring I could be happy about every time I look at it.
Post # 13
The dress you will wear once. The ring you will wear every day for the rest of your life. That has been my justification for finding an inexpensive dress and splurging a bit on the ring.
Post # 14
There are a lot of comments about how it’s ridiculous to buy an ‘exorbitantly’ priced dress you’ll only wear for a few hours, but I don’t think that’s what you’re asking.
You could also think about it this way: if you get a less expensive ring, you can always upgrade it later on down the track. You won’t be able to go back and change the dress you wore on your wedding day, so I would think carefully about how you feel about that.
Have you considered preowned, or buying a sample of your dream dress? If you’re open to those options, there would be significant savings.
Also – given you’re having a Chinese wedding – will you be doing multiple dress changes? That’s also something to factor into the budget. I’m in the same boat and choose to look at preowned/samples for my dresses. I still got my dream gowns (Vera Wang, Carolina Herrera and Reem Acra) for a fraction of what I would have paid retail. There are pragmatic ways of getting what you want.
And finally, I don’t know how many days before the wedding you’re getting to Guangzhou, but if it’s a substantial period of time, I would consider getting your alterations done there. There are many experienced seamstresses (as long as you do your due diligence) and you’ll pay a lot less.
Post # 15
They should never have put you in a dress that far out of your budget.
Keep looking and demand that they stick to your budget. Let the expensive one go. It sucks, but as others have already mentioned, you will only get to wear this dress for a few hours. Your investment should be in something that you will hold onto for the rest of your life (hopefully)!
Post # 16
If you can afford your dream dress and a simple wedding band, I would buy them and save up for a diamond anniversary band later. You will have years to upgrade your band or add anniversary bands, but you will only have this wedding once. This logic wouldn’t apply if you can’t afford both the dress and the band or want to get your forever diamond wedding band now.