Post # 1
So I have a dilemna and am wondering if I am overreacting and being mean? My family lives 8 hours from my FI and I and we are having the wedding local to us. My FI’s parents live 10 min from us and have a huge house. We previously planned for his OOT family to stay with his parents (basically his sister’s and their husbands) and that my parents, sister, her husband, two kids, and my brother would stay at our house. Last night, my FI’s best man made a comment about how one of the groomsmen plans to stay at our house the week of the wedding (he lives in CA and they are going to Vegas for the bachelor party so he will fly back here afterwards which will be tues or wed). We only have 1.5 baths….so ONE shower for 9 people as it is…am I overreacting by being upset that the groomsman just plans to stay at our house(he never said anything to my FI or I about this)? My other concern is that another one of the groomsmen is from OOT and will want to do the same thing. I know it’s our wedding that they are coming in for, but they have other friends (like the best man) who live maybe 10 min from us where they could possibly stay if they just asked. Again, I might just be overreacting, but I’m so frustrated about this right now and don’t know what to do, suck it up and have that many people at our house, or say something:(
Post # 3
I’m impressed you are okay with any house guests, let alone a full house of them. And I’m shocked that people would assume they could stay with you. My MOH is staying the night before the wedding with me, but everyone else is staying somewhere else.
Tell the GM that the house is full, and see if he could stay with the best man.
Post # 4
i agree with texasmeredith, there will be no guests with us any time near the wedding. there’s enough going on, and people should realize that.
Post # 5
You will have enough to think about with the wedding plus your family staying at your house. It is rude of them to assume and your FI needs to get on the phone and tell them he heard a rumor and explain that your house is already packed. He could suggest the other GMs house or a nearby hotel.
I originally had me plus 4 girlfriends staying in my suite the wedding weekend. I ended up hooking 2 of the girls up with some other girlfriends coming to the wedding and they all stayed together in the room next to us. It worked out really well with just me and my 2 besties! Zero stress and zero drama!
Post # 6
The fact he assumed and didn’t ask you or your FH would send me into a rage at him. You need to sort this out fast. Really it should be your FH who talks to him as it’s his groomsman but you need to sort it out with your FH and then with your groomsman. And by doing this to one I think you’ll lay down the law for any of the others who’re assuming the same.
Post # 7
I think you should get your FI to call him and explain that you guys have a full house. I don’t think guys realize how stressful house guests can be.
Post # 8
Can you ask the best man to see if he can accomodate the groomsmen? You’ve a right to be upset but sometimes guys just don’t think. In case the groomsmen don’t know the best man very well, it may be helpful for you to ask the best man.