Post # 1
Hi Bees! I’ve read so many amazing posts, and now I get to contribute!
So, I need some input for a Friday wedding. My fiance and I keep battling with the timeline of events. I love my venue. The ceremony and reception site are at the same place. There is a cute gazebo outdoors with a little courtyard, and the inside has a rustic feel. We love the idea of a sunset ceremony, however, sun sets at about 8:30pm in September. We’ve told some of our family our ideas for the timeline and all have seemed to have a positive response. But, I’d like the opinions of an unbiased crowd. We are thinking of starting out with cocktails, followed by the dinner buffet, then the ceremony outside right before sunset, and then go right into dancing! Please let me know your thoughts on this. I’m struggling with the thought of having my fiance see me in my dress before the ceremony, but nothing else seems practical.
Has anyone else done this, or is planning something similar? What are your plans or how did it turn out? Would really love some feedback!!
Post # 3
Never seen it done (have only been to one wedding that served a full meal) but it sounds fine. Just make sure to clearly mention on your invite when the cocktail hour starts and when the ceremony begins so that there is no confusion. Guests will be fine once they get there, as most people go with the flow of what is happening.
Keep in mind that if you wait to have pictures done after the ceremony, it will be very late and you will have no light, which will be a challenge for your photographer. Also, you do need to eat and your guests will want to see you when they are celebrating at that time.
Post # 4
It is your wedding and I think that if thats what you want then GO FOR IT! who knows you may end up starting a new hip wedding tradition LOL! I am just beginning my wedding planning business so i haven’t run into time line troubles yet (knock on wood) So long as you take into account when pictures will be taken. My best advice is to make sure you have a DJ or someone whom can announce to your wedding party and guests when each is taking place. sometimes it makes all the difference to have a good director of ceremony events. If youre concerned about having the groom see you in your dress before the ceremony you may want to consider having a second dress to have dinner in then plan a small activity while you slip out and get changed. This can have 2 advantages. 1) no worries of spilling anything on your dress before the ceremony and 2) you will still have the element of awe when you return to walk down the isle.
Post # 5
It certainly could be done. It’s no different that having a surprise ceremony at a party- only it’s not a surprise.
You will have to think of how you plan to handle toasts if you are going to have them.
Post # 6
I will be doing the same thing in a few weeks! We are getting married under the full moon, which will be between 8:00 – 8:30pm. We will be having a buffet dinner from 5-7pm, and then cocktail hour while the wedding party gets ready. We will all be in different outfits for the dinner in case of spills, and because I don’t want my future husband to see me in my dress before I’m walking towards him down the isle! A friend of ours is an ordained minister, so he will be performing the ceremony, and the reception will follow… Can you say, karaoke??? I’m hoping good times will be had by all!!!
Post # 7
Sure, why not? It’s different than people are used to, but I see no reason why it couldn’t work!
Post # 8
I think if you’re going to do it, you should have a program at each seat or given out when people come in explaining the order.
Are you and your Fiance going to eat with your guests? I guess it seems a little anti-climatic to me if everyone has seen you before the ceremony, but that’s just a preference thing!
Post # 8
boxturtle: How did that go? Did it work well? I’d like my ceremony to start at 7:30 and I don’t want my guests to be too hungry that late in the night.