(Closed) Dinner interview – but newly pregnant!

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I don’t think its a bad thing at all if you don’t drink and I doubt that the interviewer will think much of it. I’d probably not explain at all unless s/he asks (just a “none for me, thanks!” will probably get the job done). If they do ask I’d blame allergy meds. You’re not supposed to drink on them and they’re common.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Can you say, “sorry, I’m driving tonight’ ? 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

strangely enough, my boss and I were talking about this today and she said that when it was early in her pregnancies she would let them pour a little wine and pretend to take sips and no one ever noticed.. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would think I wouldn’t drink at an interview dinner. Just say that wine gives you headaches or something?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You can just order a water and say no thank you if offered alcohol. I remember hearing in a couple classes that in this type of interview you’re not supposed to accept alcohol anyway.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t think the employer will bring it up, but if they do, you can simply tell them you don’t like to drink and drive.  Or, I like the allergy medicine suggestion, that’s a good one.  Or you can tell them you simply don’t want to drink during an interview because you would like to keep your focus?

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think you need to make excuses.  Simply say, “No, thanks, I’d like an iced tea” or something.  No one is going to judge you for getting a different drink. One thing to check into though, if you do get/accept the job, is to make sure their insurance will cover your pregnancy.  One of my coworkers switched jobs when she was 2 months pregnant, and her new employer’s insurance refused to cover any costs associated with the pregnancy since it was pre-existing (Although maybe the new healthcare laws changed that? I don’t know).

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I know quite a few girls who have pretended to drink when pregnant for the first few weeks.  You can always say “no, thanks, I know my limit and I have to drive” if they try to offer you more.  Or you could arrive early and be at the bar with a glass of (not) wine (or ginger ale that will look like a mixed drink) and when asked tell them that this is your favorite and you only allow yourself one, but thank you. 

To add: I’m not pregnant and I generally don’t drink.  I just say no and don’t feel I owe anyone an explantion.  Especially a potential employer, they don’t need to know that it will give me a migraine and I might not be at work the next day!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@PinkMagnolia:  Agree.  I love wine & I’m not pregnant, but I don’t know that I would have a glass at an interview.  I would probably have enough nerves just going through the process.  That would lead to nervous sips, which would lead to probably too much wine consumption for an interview.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

If I were you, what I would do would depend on if people ordered individual drinks or a bottle to share at the table. If everyone orders an individual drink, just order sparkling water with lime and don’t give an explanation. If someone points out that you aren’t drinking alcohol, just respond “Oh I don’t normally drink on job interviews, plus I have to drive home and I’m such a lightweight I don’t want to take any chances.” No one can argue with any of those reasons or try to peer pressure you further since drinking and driving is obviously illegal and taboo. If they DO try to peer pressure you, just politely say things like “Yes normally I’m a wine lover, but I”m going to take a pass tonight”

If a bottle is ordered for the table, I would just go along with it and let the waiter pour a glass for me. Chances are, no one will really notice you aren’t drinking it, and they’ll actually feel more comfortable that you have alcohol in front of you. If someone does say something, just try to brush it off and say something like “I know, my stomach has been bothering me so I’m trying not to take any chances” then change the subject immediately.

Good luck!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think this is a huge deal — I would just say none for me.  My friends and I are frequent/social drinkers, but some nights we just don’t feel like drinking, and get a water or soda.  It wouldn’t make me immediately think someone was pregnant!

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