Post # 1
Hi bees….need some advice. My FMIL is planning our rehearsal dinner and wants to display pics of my FI and I as kids and asked me to send some to her. I found several, however, for a period of time in High School I sufferred from an eating disorder and depression and I was sickly thin. Like skeleton thin. Now I am plus size, and I am healthier and happier today, but I can’t help but look back on those pictures from high school and feel embarrased how heavy I am now compared to how I was then (size 0 to size 16). I know I shouldn’t think this way, but it will always be a part of me. I fear if I don’t have any pictures from high school and FI has several it will be very obvious a few years of my life are missing. In flipping through some pictures this weekend with FMIL she didn’t realize I had a disorder and it was pointed out to her by my mother that is was me in some of the pictures they were looking at. Do you think I should just skip submitting them, or would it be obvious?
Post # 3
Are you close enough with FMIL that you can sit down and talk with her about your apprehensions? Chances are she’ll be understanding, and maybe instead of having a bunch of pictures displayed you guys can have a few baby pics and then a few pics of the two of you together. Give her a chance to be compassionate, it might work out ok without the drama 🙂
Post # 5
@DaneLady: Great suggestion. I agree.
Post # 6
@DaneLady: I agree. If you want them omitted, talk to her about it. There’s no way any normal human being would say no and still put them in.
Post # 7
I would talk to her about it if you are comfortable. If not, maybe have FI mention it. Otherwise, I don’t think it’s a big deal to skip out on a few pics from those 4 years…
Post # 10
I would talk to her also. Maybe you can find just one or two pics, or crop them so just your face shows? Maybe it would be less obvious to others that you have experienced a dramatic change.