Post # 1
We’ve all seen the threads where there is one obviously socially acceptable etiquette answer (e.g., all you should expect your BMs to do is wear the dress and show up). Recognizing that thoughts do not equal behavior, what are the things you want/believe that you know you “shouldn’t”.
This is meant to be a fun thread & the point isn’t to start a debate. Let’s assume that everyone’s starting from the point that the marriage is the ultimate focus and we all value our guests, their presence and their comfort.
That being said, I’m really looking forward to getting stuff.
Post # 3
@discokitty: haha, I’ll agree with this! Our wedding is at the end of August and we’ve already recieved more than 75% of the stuff off our registry and it has certainly helped us furnish the new apartment we just moved into! And yes, we’re using the things we’ve gotten now instead of waiting until after the wedding. We already live together and need the stuff so why am I going to let it sit in boxes for another month and a half instead of using it?
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@discokitty: haha, totally. I’m excited for stuff too. I LOOOOOVE presents, both giving and receiving, so this is like the best day ever for me.
To be honest, I’m also really excited for so much attention on us and our awesome relationship. We’ve been together for a loooong time and (I think, totally unbiased of course) we have a basically perfect storybook relationship. So I’m kinda psyched for everyone to focus on that for a day
Post # 5
I am super excited for all the people flying in for the wedding. Call me self-absorbed but I really feel loved and special that alot of people are willing to travel to see me.
Post # 6
@discokitty: Getting stuff is pretty awesome, but I love the fact that we got cash/checks. I know it sounds horribly greedy, but since we already had a house, furniture, cookware, etc., getting money was really nice.
Post # 7
@discokitty: Teehee. Love this thread.
I’m also looking forward to gifts!
Post # 8
It’s really fun when it’s all over opening those cards and adding it all up!
Post # 9
Dirty little secrets…
1) I partially chose our specific wedding date because the thought of a few other couples we knew getting married before us PISSED ME OFF.
2) One of the main reasons we didn’t elope was for all the cash and gifts. So worth it. Seriously. We got so much.
3) I used to love writing thank you cards, letters, etc. But after all these hundreds of thank you cards (and still not done!) they are a pain in my rear!
4) For the entire planning period, I HATED people asking me wedding questions. “What are your colors!?” was my least favorite by far. Also “What’s your dress like!?” irked me.
Ha… glad I only have to get married once. 🙂 Such a stress relief to be done, ladies.
Post # 10
A big reasons I picked my wedding date is that FI’s family usually goes camping that weekend and I LOATHE camping, a wedding was the best possible excuse to get out of it.
Also looking forward to gifts (and cash).
Post # 12
Dirty little secrets… FUN! It’s totally not polite, but we just bought our first house and I’m looking forward to getting gifts and money hahaha.. but seriously, a girl needs to have a home that looks cute and if it’s a gift that’s even better than going out and buying it myself. I also don’t really care that our wedding is going to be disorganized, it’s a destination and I tried to make a good schedule of events type thing, but at this point I’m over it! My give a [email protected] is out the window, y’all.
Post # 13
Ok I absolutely expect that like HALF my guests will show up without a gift and I’m totally cool with that, really really. However…. I am super curious and more than a little excited about what my very generous uncle will give us! We do a Christmas “secret santa” exchange with a $30 limit and when he gets me or my sister he gets us gift cards for at least $100. He’s also slipped me up to $200 cash for no apparent reason. So, I’m guessing he’ll either contribute to the wedding or… maybe… possibly… PLEASE… pay for a honeymoon!
It is so horrible that I’m hoping for that… but I still am 😛
Post # 14
My dirty little secret, I cannot wait to see what my Oma is getting us. For graduation I got a new car, laptop, and $1,000. She doesn’t have as much money now so I don’t expect anything like that but it would be awesome if she gave us enough to help FI get a truck, maybe a couple grand???? But even if she doesn’t we will of course be happy with what we get 🙂
Post # 15
All that I *really* care about is looking pretty and getting good photos. LOL
Post # 16
I’ve always said that on your wedding day you won’t notice or care what a guest wears, even if it is cream/white/off white.
But I did. I totally noticed the off white colored cardi over a beige dress at our ceremony. And it kind of ticked me off. I got over it pretty quick, though, and remembered the important things. The outfit changed for the reception, and I secretly hope a mutual friend of ours asked her what she was thinking.