Post # 1
2 of our groomsmen have young children (3-ish). We have 3 kids in the wedding (our niece and nephews) who will be stying for the reception. These are the only kids we are inviting.
Fiance wants to invite the kids of the wedding party. He does not understand that if we invite them we will have to invite all kids of everyone invited to the wedding. He seems to think that we don’t, even though I am trying to explain that people will get angry/upset if they see that we picked and chose what kids could come. Right now we are doing 12 and over as we don’t want young children running around the reception. The 3 in the wedding will likely be going home early with their grandparents (not related to us) anyway.
Opinions? He feels that childcare may be an issue, however, we sent out Save-The-Date Cards months ago and both families are local with grandparents, siblings, etc. available.
Post # 3
I agree with you – if you were to allow your friends kids, you would need to let all friends & family’s kids to come.
The exception to the rule are the kids in the wedding only (like Flower Girl & Ring Bearer.)
I would sit down and discuss how much it means to you to have/don’t have kids at the wedding. Also, what would be the additional cost or space (if that is a factor.) But overall, whatever decision you make, it does have to be an all or nothing situation.
Post # 4
I disagree that allowing children of bridal party members means you have to allow everyone’s children. Your bridal party is already going through a lot more as a member of the party then a typical guest is and should be afforded a little convenience if they’d like. If you’re having your reception in a hotel maybe you could just rent a room and hire a babysitter upstairs for the kids – that’s what we will be doing.
Post # 5
That’s still a topic up in the air for us smh, but we’re leaning towards only close family to bring kids…