Post # 1
Here’s the background:
My FI owns his own business and works very hard for long hours all week. I have a typical 8:30-5 job but a lot of my free time is pretty much filled up (yoga, softball, running errands for the house, cleaning, planning a wedding…etc).
So on Monday, the first time we were home during the day all summer, we realize that our downstair air conditioning is broken (we have a separate unit for the 2nd floor so it’s always cool when we sleep). Here’s the thing, I don’t care if it’s broken. We’re only home at night and the house is cool enough by then. I don’t want to spend my time and money fixing something that we never use.
He on the other hand wants it fixed, so he told me to call a repair man. I told him that I wouldn’t take 1/2 day off of work to get something fixed that I didn’t care about, and that if he wanted it fixed, he could take 1/2 day off work to sit at home and wait for the repair man, knowing full well that he can’t really take time off work.
We are away every weekend during the summer, so I can’t have someone come then. So where’s the compromise?
Post # 4
Have you talked about why he wants it fixed and why you don’t want to fix it?
How hot does it get in your house during the day? If its in the 70s, no big deal, if it gets in the 90s, that is not good for your house.
Do you have pets at home? If you have pets at home and the house gets above 80 degrees in the day, I think you should fix it.
FYI – if your downstairs unit is broken and it gets really hot our, your upstairs unit has to work much harder (which is not very energy efficient and more costly in the long run).
Post # 5
Buy a fan or two. I like them better than AC anyways.
Post # 6
I am guessing it must be some sort of central air unit? I live in the North so we don’t really have those.
I think it’s a little petty of you to tell him to take time out of work because you don’t want it fixed and he does. There are going to be so many issues that will cause someone to need to take time out of work in the future, and for us it comes down to who can be more flexible with work (usually that is me).
I think you guys should discuss if it is a necessary repair, how much it will cost, if it’s something that could potentially cause more damage if it’s not fixed soon, and if it’s something that can wait until you both have a little more time on your hands.
Post # 7
I agree with the others get a few fans. I am not a fan of the AC so i wouldnt waste money fixing it.
Post # 8
Frankly, whoever’s schedule it’s easier to manipulate, in my house, would stay home. I have the luxury of working from home as needed or flexing my schedule, and I’d do it for my husband. Sure, there are things I can “live without” in my house. And yes, i’d rather sit at my desk, but that’s how it goes. But I’d expect him to do the same for me. I wouldn’t say, “well if YOU want it done, YOU stay home” if I knew his schedule didn’t really allow for that.
I think you guys should discuss why he wants it fixed and why you don’t, and see about trying some fans first. If it’s a huge expense, it may not be worth it, and he may realize that. If it’s only $50 to fix it, i’d fix it. Warm air rises, and I agree with texasmeredith that your top floor AC unit will work harder to compensate.
Post # 9
I think first you guys need to come to an agreement on if it should be fixed or not. What are your reasons/his reasons? Understandably at some point you guys are probably going to want it fixed. Maybe you could agree to wait until fall when its easier to get a repair man out there? Maybe even after your wedding when you have a bit more spare time?
I think once you agree when/if to fix it, you guys really should just decide who its easier for to take the time off and meet the repair man.
Post # 10
Thanks for the advice! I think what made me the most mad is that he basically ordered me to hire a repair man and stay home to fix it. It was like I was one of his employees. I am more than willing to go out of my way to do things that will make him happy, but once he starts demanding things or taking me for granted, that’s when I shut down.
Post # 11
Yeah, that would make me mad too. You’re both coming at it from different sides so I agree no one is particularly right or wrong. I disagree though that you’re going to be overworking your upstairs AC by not running your downstairs one or losing money that way. Unless you notice it running constantly now whereas it didn’t before, but really the upstairs unit should have been doing the bulk of the work anyways so there shouldn’t be any big change.
Post # 12
I see where you are coming from. But in the long run, having one unit working on the entire 2 story house will cause your light bill to go way up. So it would be best to fix it soon. Maybe a repair man can come when it is a better time for you (like when one of you are off from work). That way you don’t have to take off from work.