- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I must start by saying this girl is one of my best friends since grade 3. I moved across the country but we still talk by text messaging every day. It was a no-brainer that she would be in my wedding party.
I understand that my wedding isn’t the biggest priority in everyone’s life because of course it is my wedding not theirs, it means more to me. I also acknowledge that she did give me almost 9 months notice backimg dowN. I just want someone to hear me out not ball me out saying I’m being ridiculous.
This bridesmaid falls in love quickly and when she does she wants to have a baby with the guy ASAP. She had her first child at age 18, and has had several pregnancies since. Including abortions and miscarriages. She now has a boyfriend of 5 months who does not want children yet because its too soon and she hasn’t worked in 5 years. She is 25 and taking her high school courses now.
She sent me a picture message yesterday of a positive pregnancy test and wrote “looks like i won’t be coming to your wedding now”. She told me they were trying. My cousin is best friends with her boyfriend and said he is really freaking out and says they weren’t trying. I told her I understood and was happy for her but now I’m getting disappointed with how she acted. She did not say she was upset or sad that she’s not coming now. In fact, she went on and on about how everyone is so happy for her and her sister in law cried with joy.
5 weeks ago she asked me to order her bridesmaid dress on my credit card because she didn’t have the money to do it until next week. So I did. I gave her several outs to back down before hand because I know it will be expensive for her to come to. She refused saying I’m her best friend and she will not miss it for anything. Weeks later she still hadn’t paid me for the dress. Finally she sent me a fraction of the price and told me that is all she can pay for it. I sucked it up and said I understand and it’s ok I’ll cover the rest even though I gave her 4 months warning when we would be ordering.
I just wish she would have stepped down when given the opportunity considering she knew she was trying to get pregnant. I wouldn’t have bought the dress.