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    Ls13    8/30/09   New York

    I have a small wedding party and my sister is my MOH. I have my MOH in a different color than the bridesmaids as she looked so good in the color and I didn't mind having her stand out.  All the girls also have different style dresses as well (don't ask!)   

    Since everyone is different I want all the girls to have matching jewelry which I bought...diamond heart pendent necklaces.  After I purchased them, my sister said that she wanted red jewlery to match her dress.  I wound up finding a pretty necklace in the perfect color, so I bought that too! I showed my MOH who said she loved it.  So I bought matching earrings and a ring for MOH and the same necklaces for the other girls as well so everone will at least will have the same necklace. 

    I gave my sister the whole set the other day in which she said she loved it...and now today she tells me that she thinks a choker type necklace would be better!

    I've had it!! At this point I really don't care if she likes the stuff or not! I personnaly think she should just say "thank you" and wear it!

    Am I wrong?

     
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    bluespurrs    August 7, 2009   South-central PA, USA, Earth

    Oh I think you have already done more than enough. It's a case of you give em an inch  and they take a mile. If you try to cater to every little thing everyone wants, you'll go crazy.

     
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    ES123    April 25, 2009   Laurel, MD

    Yes, I think you are done trying to please her. You gave it your best shot. If she brings up that a choker might look better, just nod and smile. If she wants to go out and buy herself one, that's up to her.

     
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    Niki    05/31/2008  

    Forgive her terribe breach of etiquette and tell her to wear the damn necklace you picked out!

     
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    hcritton    09/06/09   Seattle, WA

    @Niki: well said!!

    I think you've definitely gone above and beyond here and the fact that she doesn't really seem to be that grateful would annoy me personally.

     
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    msbuttons    May 30, 2010   Palm Harbor, FL

    I think you're being pretty accommodating in the first place in allowing her to have a different color dress, etc from the others!  But its true,  you give an inch, and they attempt to take a mile...

     
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    Ls13    8/30/09   New York

    Thanks everyone for all your imput! Laughing

     
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    LLauRRa    10/10/09   Dallas, TX

    I second Niki!!

     
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    MayBee    May 22, 2010   Manchester, NH

    No, you are not wrong...at all!  They should wear the necklaces you bought, and that's that.  You have aleady been more than accommodating!

     

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