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I'm trying really hard to keep this all in perspective, I know that the economy is bad and I know that my wedding is not the first things on everyone's mind.  There are a few people that have declined (with no indication why) and I am really disappointed by it.  I tend to take things a little personally and be a little emotional about them, but I am trying really hard not to.  We have had a lot more declines than expected and may not make our minimum of 125ppl that we have to pay for, which is kind of disappointing also, there were 200ppl on the guest list to begin with.  I think it was just a disappointing end to my bad day yesterday and it kind of hit me hard.

Anybody feeling the same way?  How did you deal with it?

Its ok to feel disappointed, and to take it personally. It's a very personal day. My grandparents won't be coming and my FI's godparents won't either. And to be honest we are both hurt by it, mostly because there was no explination. My advice is to take it in be disappointed for a moment then let it go, know that the people who will be there love you and are excited to be there. Chin up it's going to be the best day no matter what!

Thanks everyone!  It was mostly a few certain people that declined (FI's grandparents and a good college friend of mine) that made me a little upset.  The other thing I found out later is that the weekend of the wedding is the same weekend as a few college graduations.  There are at least 2 sets of parents that have kids graduating that weekend so they can't come, but really wanted to and feel really bad about not coming.  

I'm feeling better now.  You have all pretty much said exactly what I was telling myself in my head (it's ok to be disappointed for a little, those that matter will come, etc), it was just nice to hear (read) someone else say the same thing.

irishgirl, I couldn't agree with you more, but my FI's family is one place that I don't go.  He is not particularly close with parts of his family, and his dad's father is one of those who he is not close with.  I think I was more upset for him on that one, because it would have been nice for him to see them (he thinks the last time he saw them he was like 10 or 12, 25 now) and to actually meet them. His mom said "they gave me a long story on how they both hurt their backs".  I don't know how to take that to be honest, but I'm over it.  :-)

We have a minimum of 125 people that we have to have and we were guessing about 140-145 people.  It looks like we will be at 121 for our final headcount, so we will have to pay for 4 more meals I guess.  We're already having an open bar (by bottle) and appetizers, but they still require the minimum.  It's a really small hotel, like just the hotel and restaurant.  They already give us a room the night of the wedding as part of the package, which is nice.  It's a high school friends family that owns the place, so we know them well.  Even though it's not my fault, I feel bad negotiating for 4 plates, because the wedding the weekend before ours and after hours that was supposed to be held at the same place were both called off in the last 2-4 weeks.