Disappointed by lack of response for my bachelorette party

posted 2 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
502 posts
Busy bee

I understand that that would be a crappy feeling. However, I would wait for the follow up simply because you have no idea what’s going on until you get an explanation. Maybe the deadline wasn’t communicated properly, or they have things other than children that can take up time in their lives. 

Post # 3
2593 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I would say that until they have planned a wedding of their own, many people don’t realize how important it is to RSVP at ALL, especially to do so by the expected date.  I would get in touch with them, or have your MOH do so, and see if they are planning on coming or not before you get disappointed.

Post # 5
1400 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My bachelorette party was my sister, my best friend, my brother, and his boyfriend. You don’t need a lot of people to have a wonderful time (:

Post # 6
314 posts
Helper bee

I am sorry 🙁 I’ve had a similar situation- everyone is too busy in their own little worlds to care about my wedding. I guess it really shows who the true friends are.

Post # 9
184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

rusticchic212:  Ugh I’m so sorry! If I were you I would try to contact the people who haven’t responded just to check in and ask if they had figured out if they could make it or not–kinda acting like you have no idea what is going on! Maybe some of their shcedules have cleared.  If it gives you any comfort, three of my 5 bridesmaids aren’t making it to my bachelorette party, which I’m also sad about…

Post # 10
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

My best friend had only 4 people at her bachelorette and one was a girl that I brought to try and make it a bigger group. she still enjoyed herself and you will too!

Post # 11
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I am kinda in a similiar situation.  My bridal party has sent out the invite over a month ago and so far from what I’ve heard the only ones going is my bridal party (there’s only 3 of them) and one of my good coworker friends.  So that’s 5 people.  I think 1 other person is going but only towards the night time because she’s working. SO 6 out of 14.  I was upset at first then I started to realize … I kinda like that it’s a smaller party.  It means I get to spend my day with the special people that I know I can actually count on and are genuinely happy for me.

I don’t have to worry about accomodating so many girls and worry about girl drama if something happens.  One of my friends told me that it’s actually better to have a smaller party which she had and she hasn’t regretted anything since!  So it’s making me feel a lot better about it and I’ma ctually quite excitied to be around my closest friends rather than a big group where I don’t even know if half of them even care about my party and just want to get drunk or something.

Post # 12
1836 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

rusticchic212:  I’d be hurt too! I’m sorry your friends are being flaky and nonresponsive, I hate that – I’d rather just hear a no than be blown off that way! 

I didn’t read the other replies so I apologize if I’m repeating something someone already said.  But even if your bachelorette ends up much smaller than you’d like, look at it this way: a) you now know who your real friends are, and b) it’s much easier to do things with a small group! Booking spa appointment and dinner reservations is much easier when you don’t have a group of 10. Plus it will be a much more intimate setting and you will get to talk to your group extensively.

Post # 14
1648 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

mine was only the 4 of us and we spent the weekend in vegas and we had a blast.  in my experience, more girls = more drama and more babysitting! 

Post # 15
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

This is exactly what happened to me. Only 3 of my friends came to my bachelorette party and I have 5 bridesmaids! One friend brought 2 of her friends because she felt bad about the poor turnout. I was especially upset because my bachelorette was only a couple hours of wine tasting and then dinner. No clubs, no weekend long extravaganzas like every single one of my friends had. Frankly, it hurt my feelings a lot and was really upset. Now that it’s been 2 weeks since the bachelorette, it realize it’s really not that important. I have plenty of fun memories with all the girls I wished were there. When it comes down to it, what is important is that my friends will be at my wedding. If I had to pick one event for them to attend that would be it and fortunately they’re all attending. I’m just writing the bachelorette off and trying to look forward to my wedding.

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