- 8 years ago
So my fiancee does not have a very big family, but the family he does have is fairly close. Well, long story short, we thought everyone would be excited about our wedding and want to be involved and now that we are one month away from the wedding, not a single person (including his mom!) has stepped forward to offer any help. I think the final dagar for me was that half of them neglected to send back their RSVP’s by the due date. When I mentioned this to his mother, she said oh, it’s becasue you gave them a due date…my fiancee quickly jumped in and said that is was due no later than the date given and that if they know they are coming, why wait to send it? We have both started to take all of this personal now.
And to top it off, for any who have read any of my previous posts, my future mother in law plays major favorites with her two boys and unfortunately, my fiancee is the less favored. I really just don’t get it…he is so kind and he takes care of everythign for her, including her home, since she lives a couple blocks away. She treats him like dirt and I’m finally getting fed up…I’ve always tried to stay out of it becasue I do not want to pour salt in his wounds because he is hurt by the way she treats him. He has finally spoken up and told her he wants space…good for him! Since her other son is her favorite, his g/f is also her favorite over me…I’m for the most part, ok with that. I’m comfortable with who I am. Well, the g/f is now 3 months pregnant and of course is the center of attention (get this, she even asked if I was mad at her since she was taking attention away from me! hahahaha). This weekend, she will be turning 40 and my fiancee’s brother is planning to propose. I think it’s the right thing for him to do and she makes him happy, which makes me happy for them. I guess where my frustration comes into play is I just found out that his mom was urging him to propose and even gave him a ring to give her to propose with. He will then take her to pick out her own ring later. I’m shocked his mother is providing a piece of her own jewelry when she gave me a cheap (we’re talking JC Penny) looking pendant she bought for my engagement gift. My fiancee’s brother was engaged once before and their mother threw a HUGE engagement party for them that bascially resembled a wedding and when we got engaged, did absolutely nothing. I’m already sad to see how excited she is about them when she has yet to do anything for our wedding except add more people to our guest list and worry about what she is going to wear. =(