(Closed) Disappointed in friends

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

No, you were right. That’s just weird behaviour. They’re using their friends in a very underhanded way to further their careers. It’s plain ignorant and rude. She’s just trying to guilt you over it now. Good luck to her – you don’t need that kind of drama in your wedding.

Post # 5
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1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

That’s a pity. I would stop holding out the olive branch for now, though –  she’s being v manipulative right now, she’s punishing you for her ridiculous behaviour.

Post # 9
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7054 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

It was hard for you I’m sure to ask for a referral from two photographers for another photographer, but you did quite well and that should have been that.  I think that they were trying to angle in to become your photographer for your wedding and the way that the Cs went about it was imho wrong.

I remember talking to a few photographers before our wedding and reception and got some snarky and wierd stuff too.  But it happens. 

Getting referrals comes from good work.  I don’t think that referring to others and then replacing half the photography team with themselves is a good thing.  What was the intent?  To split the cost of your $ with another photographer since they did the referral?  I am unclear on what and why they did that.

You wanted a certain photo style and it sounds as if they were sour grapes b/c you didn’t choose them to be your photographer and might have also decided if they were to refer, to get some $ in the process.  Yuck.  Sorry that happened.

Post # 10
Member
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ooh, that does suck!  I am glad that you came to closure some time ago with the relationship ending, since their recent actions seem to prove that the effort you make is not really worth it.

Post # 12
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

@cliffette: I think for future reference to anyone in a similar issue, instead of pointing out that they have a different style or price point or whatever, simply say ” It is really important to us that you can just sit and enjoy our wedding and not have to work”. Even if they try to insist at that point, it’s a lot easier to say no because it’s in their best interest and not yours.

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