Post # 1
i’m very sad today.
i got to view my wedding photos from my professional photographer’s online gallery today. and i’m totally NOT happy about the photos.. :'(
he did such a great job on my engagement session that we LOVED 100+ and liked 200+ (in addition to the 100+ loved) from a total of 440 photos.
this time, he gave us almost 1500 photos but i don’t think i can pick out more than 10 portraits of my husband and me that i like.. and maybe just 1 or 2 portraits of me alone.. the group photos with family and friends are fine, photos of our ceremony and reception site (landscape photos) are fine, but i want more great photos of my husband and me 🙁
besides, there are no good photos from the first look, the first dance, grand entrance, and when i was walking down the aisle with my dad.. :'( i feel like photos that family and friends took during those times are way better than the ones taken by my photographer. so at least i have those.. but still.. :'(
i feel ashamed of showing those photos to anyone other than my mom (she’s my best friend).. i don’t think i’m being too picky, because DH who is not picky at all also isn’t satisfied with the photos.. there just isn’t enough good portraits of us.
i’ll for sure talk to my photographer about it, but it’s not like i can re-take my wedding day photos.. so i basically can’t do anything besides feeling sad..
Post # 3
Awww…Are you sure you’re not being overly critical? Your guest photos looked great! Also, do you think maybe they couldn’t get good close-up shots of you guys because of the strict photography rules at Wayfarer’s Chapel? I remember reading about a lot of restrictions when we toured the place and this was one of the things that scared me off, even though it was a gorgeous venue.
I’d hated the photos of us in our photographer’s blog at first. After I got our 2000+ photos, I realized he just happened to pick some that I didn’t look so great to put up on his blog but that there were a lot of other great photos in there. I just had to put aside my initial disappointment and look again with an objective eye. You may feel the same way.
Post # 4
@meliss: i also didn’t like the engagement photos that he posted on his blog, but found many that i love from the whole collection. unfortunately, i’m not so lucky this time..
i looked at the photos three times before i posted on weddingbee to make sure i wasn’t being too critical. and i’ve just looked at them two more times. i’ve found a few more that i like, but i would not have chosen them if i have enough good photos; they are just “ok”.
wayfarers chapel does have many restrictions, however, i’ve seen photos that other photographers (who are a lot less experienced) took of the bride & FOB walking down the aisle, and those photos are seriously way better than mine; granted, i only have TWO photos of that.
i guess all i can do is to suck it up and accept the reality even though i don’t want to 🙁
Post # 5
I cant see your photos since Im at work so I will definitely come back to this and look later to let you know. BUT I just want you to know that so many brides out there are not totally happy with their photography – I see post after post about it every other day.
Also, I love most of my pictures from my photographer, but there isnt a straight on shot of my dad and I coming down the aisle (there is a gorgeous one from the back) and in addition I have seen other weddings our photographer did after ours and I feel like he did better work for the other brides than us.
Hopefully over time you will feel less and less sad. There are other options too – put back on your wedding dress and your husband his suit and do a fun session with a really good photographer. Do a TTD session. Or maybe do a 1 year session. I’m really sorry you are disappointed 🙁 My SIL hates her wedding photos and 6 years later I think she is over it – it will just take some time!
Post # 6
I’m really sorry that this happened to you.
But–and I know this is hard–it’s better for you if you concentrate on what you DO have rather than what you don’t have. If you’ve got great pictures of friends and family and still-lives, well that’s at least something. And you can supplement the pro pics with your family pics.
Just to make you laugh a bit, my FILs told me that when they got married, they had hired a friend who was the staff food photographer for the LATimes…which means they have about 2 pictures of themselves and about 900 of carefully composed shots of the FOOD at their wedding! So if you want to know who attended, you’re out of luck, but if you were wondering what the first course was, you’ve got that in spades! It’s actually kind of a fun book to look through in the end, because even though it’s not what they wanted, it’s a quirky-weird remembrance of 80s wedding style and taste.
Don’t be embarrassed about how the pictures came out–it’s certainly not your fault and I’m sure people will understand. And hey, maybe they’ll like them more than you do!
Post # 7
Did you allow much time for portraits? I’m wondering if maybe the portrait session was rushed, and thus not a lot of time for variety or to get the shots you really wanted? Did people walk down the aisle too fast, not giving them enough time to get positioned? Was it a lower light ceremony/reception with high ceilings? That can effect how bright things are and thus the quality. I’m in no way blaming you, just trying to get a better understanding of the circumstances that can effect the quality of photos. It may be completely the photogs fault, but sometimes weddings can get rushed, or the environment can make good photos much more difficult to achieve!
Post # 8
Would you mind posting some pictures so you can get a second opinion?
Post # 9
some pictures would be great to see but i have to agree with PitBullLover.
I have some GREAT pictures but im still sad, there isnt some great ones of just me and DH, none of the back of my dress, me with just the girls and vice versa….
I feel like I missed out on a lot of great shots, but got TONS of the rings and details etc. It really does make me sad sometimes (I cant even find a pic to inlarge of husband and i for our house!!) but i dont think everything comes back perfect…..
Post # 10
@PitBulLover: thanks for suggesting an anniversary session, i am seriously considering it!
@JennyW1: i’ve been telling myself the same thing: that at least there are a few (maybe 5…) photos of DH and me that i like, i guess it’s better than nothing..
@crayfish: we had at least 1.5hrs dedicated to taking portraits of DH and me. that’s why i’m this disappointed..
@Baileyh: i can’t help but think that my photographer did a sloppy job and especially his 2nd shooter. the 2nd shooter was responsible for shooting my getting ready shots and capturing my look during the first look, and there is NONE that i like.. it’s sad.. cuz not even the first look..
Post # 11
@TingTing- There may be an upside to all of this- I think pitbulLover had a great idea. Do a TTD or an anniversary session. This way you can get lots of photos of you and your hubby. So sorry you’re disappointed, that’s the worst feeling in the world.
Post # 12
Oh my gosh. I’m so sorry to hear that. Especially after having such grand epics, I’m sure your were expecting alot. Have you told him about that? Perhaps you can do an “encore” sessions. One of my friends how is a photog does these for the days (or months – whenever) after the wedding, where you get dresses up again. so you can take some portraits?
Post # 13
I’d love to see photos as well. I’m confused when you say your photog captured all these moments but then go on to say “but I don’t like them.” Do you just not like the way you look in them? I don’t think it’s really fair to judge a photographer for not liking the way you look. We can strive for the most flattering angles, etc., but when it comes down to capturing the moment from the best angle or missing it all together, we have to be happy with just capturing it and, frankly, so does the bride.
I find it odd because, I’ve seen more brides HAPPY with completely crappy photos from newbie non-pro photographers simply because they are of them and depict their special memories from the day than brides who have photos from all the important moments of the day, but just don’t “like them.”
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park
I’m sorry that you’re disappointed 🙁 I know what you mean, sometimes they really just don’t capture that moment you’re living, and can’t wait to relive again. And that is totally disappointing. The best thing I can suggest is to have another session later with you and your husband, either in your wedding getup or something else. Maybe a TTD with a cheap alternate dress? Or something else equally as fun!
Post # 15
@TingTing: I am sorry that your photos did not live up to your expectations. However, you have many things to be happy about.
First, you got married to the man you love and have pictures from that special day. Some people are not so lucky and their story begins with “I don’t have any wedding photos.” Second, you said mostly it’s pictures of you and your husband that you really want more of. This is great! You can’t recreate many pictures from the day of a wedding but those are fairly easy ones to recreate. You can tell your photographer that you expected to see more pics of you and your husband together and see if they will work with you to take more photos since that whole hour and a half seems to have been wasted. Most photographers want to see their clients 100% happy.
The only downside I see to an anniversary session is – what if the dress doesn’t fit because of having children? Both of the weddings I went to last year the brides were either pregnant on their anniversary or had a newborn!
Also, I read somewhere to put your photos away for a while, a week, month or something and then look at them with fresh eyes.
Post # 16
@ TingTing Ther are other options. For example, my photographer took about half a dozen photos of me and my dad dancing but I didn’t like any of them because of the lighting (the lights were still up from dinner and were dimmed right after our dance so it’S really bright) and my hair and our faces. I picked the best one and sent it to an ETSY vendor for editing. She really worked her magic and it was quite cheap. The photo I got back is one I really love, she cropped it and changed the lighting and coloring to a warm sepia tone. I ended up sending her a couple of other photos as well once I got that one back. Ultimately, we are happy with our photographer but there were a couple of shots, I knew could be better. He did some post processing on a bunch of photos but didn’t do all 1200 so I’ve picked a few I would like to have improved and sent them out for post processing (yes, I have the rights to the photos and reproduction). If you are interested in this, PM me and I’ll send you my before and after and the name of the shop.