Post # 1
I have always been a really hard person to surprise. And it is not because I snoop around or try to pry information from people. I am just very observant and notice the little things. So up until last week I was SO HAPPY that for once in my life I may actually be surprised at my shower. I have had two surprise bday parties in the past and have known about both of them well before hand because my family (mostly my mom) is horrible at keeping things quiet.
So my first tip as to when my shower is happened while I was at a shower my Church threw for me and the three other girls in the church family that are getting married. While sitting down and eating, one of our friends was talking to my mom about helping her out with the kitchen going into the first full week of May. As I am chowing down on food and listening to the friend talk, it gets somewhat silent and the Friend just says “Oh Got it, OK”. I am assuming that my mom silently mouthed to her that it was the weekend of my shower. But I thought, maybe not. Maybe I missed something while I was thoroughly enjoying my yellow squash quiche!
The second tip for when my shower is happened a few nights ago when my sister was on the phone with her friend. Somehow my name was mixed into the conversation and I just heard her say, “No that will be in two weeks” The first weekend in May !!!!! The same weekend that my mom cannot help the friend from church!
Now the hint that really makes me 100% believe that the shower is May 5th is that I received a text message from my boss on Monday saying that May 5th was covered and that she will only need me on Sunday. This is extrememly out of the norm for my job. I am a CHHA (Home Health Aid) and am the permanent caretaker of this specific client on the weekends. The only reason I would not work is if the client is in the hospital or I take off….
I am so upset that I know when my shower is. This may seem petty, but I was just hoping that for once, I would be truly surprised. I am still really looking forward to celebrating the upcoming wedding with a bunch of beautiful women, but I can’t help but feel alittle bummed about knowing 🙁
Sorry, there is really no need for this post, just felt like talking about it with someone. The worst part is I KNOW that my mom will be very upset if she finds out I know. I told her that my friend (who is gettin gmarried this July) knew about her shower that happened this past weekend and she was like “That is awful. I would be so upset if i were her mom and tried to keep it a surprise.”
Post # 3
Sorry you won’t be surprised but try to avoid any details and at least those will surprise you.
I am having three showers (second one this weekend) including a Cinco de Mayo shower, so we are shower twins! 🙂
Post # 4
@Treejewel19: Good point. This is also why I have not registry stalked in a while. I want to be surpised at any gifts guests may bring 🙂 And yayy for shower twins!
Post # 5
I think people are just so busy nowadays that it’s difficult to truly surprise someone. But I’m sorry you’re upset. Just focus on enjoying the love from a party thrown in your honor 🙂
Post # 6
I’ve never had a surprise not even my engagement. I was crossing my fingers for a surprise shower but it turns out I just don’t get a shower at all… =( I don’t get a bachelorette party unless I throw it myself either… see, things could be worse- lol.
Post # 7
I didn’t know showers were suppose to be a surprise.
Post # 8
@AJester2: I also did not realize that showers were supposed to be a surprise… so I’m right there with you.
Post # 9
@P2TheDoodle: I’m with the two of you. I didn’t know they were supposed to be kept secret, either. Every bride I’ve known well enough to discuss this kind of stuff with in real life always knew when their showers would be.
I guess I can’t fathom feeling disappointed if friends and family care enough about me to arrange with my boss to get off of work, throw me a party, and give me gifts. Unless that comes along with being tortured by sitting on a chair of rusty nails the entire party or something, it seems tough to be disappointed by any of that.
Post # 10
I LOVE surprises too but was so glad my shower was not a surprise. I was really glad I could pick out the outfit I wanted to wear and look forward to the day. It was still a surprise how they decorated the room, what food we ate and all the gifts.
Post # 11
I didn’t realize showers were supposed to be a surprise either. I can’t even imagine how stressful it would be to my BMs trying to plan a shower without me knowing about it. I wouldn’t even want them to try.
Post # 12
I kinda had to know when my shower is since I have to fly there. The best part is being able to have my makeup done (free at sephora since I need to buy new foundation for the wedding anyways) and getting to pick a really cute dress for the whole thing. Plus this way you can know what to get for the host (if you know whos hosting it).
Post # 13
@HappilyEverAfter54: Aw hun I am sorry! I feel bad for even writing this post now.
@AJester2: @P2TheDoodle: @kitamad: Really? I have only ever been to showers that were surprises. I mean I think I have only been to about six total, but they were all intended to be a surprise. Maybe its dependent upon the area you live in?
@LibertyBelle: I don’t want to seem unappreciative. I feel truly blessed to have friends and family that love and care about me so much they want to throw a shower for me and spend money that they don’t have to. I hate feeling like people have to make sacrifices for me. But anyway, I really just thought it would be fun to have an actual surprise.
Post # 14
I’ve never heard of a surprise wedding shower either.
@beachchicbride: I’m sorry you feel disappointed because you were hoping it would be a surprise. It’s okay to feel a bit let down when you were really hoping things would be different than they are – I think most people can say they’ve felt like that about something along the way. Surprises can be a lot of fun. Try not to let it get you too down, though. You have family and friends who love you so much that they’re doing this for you, and lots of the details will be a lovely surprise.
Post # 15
I have never been to a “surprise” bridal shower. I am not having a shower. I am sure it will be fun anyway.
Post # 16
I’m not having a shower either. Maybe you should think about volunteering somewhere to make you feel more grounded. Wedding planning can really make you lose perspective on life.