Disappointed with my engagement ring

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’d be honest with him. Tell him that you like the ring, love the sentiment behind it, but when it comes down to it you have to wear the ring every single day for (hopefully) ever.


My ring is .5 carat and I love it. My fiance actually wouldhave gotten somehting much bigger (and still says he thinks it should be bigger. But, that’s me and it’s what I wanted.

Post # 3
1918 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

It sounds like he definitely splurged to get you a high quality diamond in a classic setting.  Maybe you can talk to him about having it reset.  Would you be willing to chip in to pay for a larger diamond or a fancier setting?

My husband and I picked out the setting together, so there were no surprises.

Post # 4
13678 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Is it returnable?  If so, say something and return/exhange it before its too late.  If not, I’d grin and bear it and get a wrap for wedding band or put it in a halo to make it look larger.

Post # 5
2170 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


Chicpeas:  Well, hate to say it but you do seem ungrateful.

Post # 6
2271 posts
Buzzing bee

I would give some imput but I have a common, less-than-a-carat solitaire…

Post # 7
3753 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Yeah, be kind but honest. It may not go over well at first but he’ll appreciate it in the end and so will you.

Post # 8
1118 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

get an enhancer wedding band…. I coukd post pics for days but, I do not know your style but just start looking you could go from simple and blingy for ones with more metal work and fine details or design your own completely if you have the money to do so… I think you learn to love it … bc like you said it was given to you with such love… 

Post # 9
3345 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I’m all about honesty, especially in marriage.  I would tell him the truth gently.  Do you know that this is all he can afford?  If yes, then consider talking to him about upgrading in the future as opposed to right now.  Definitely be sensitive to his feelings, but don’t ignore yours either.  This is just one of many tough conversations you two will have throughout your relationship.

Post # 10
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think you’re ungrateful at all. I totally understand wanting something that suits your style.

I personally would be sad with a solitaire as well– mostly because many of them are so high-set and impractical for clutzy me!

Maybe you can explain to him that you love the ring but would perfer a different setting for practical reasons?

Post # 11
5316 posts
Bee Keeper

Chicpeas:  I say halo! It would totally increase the finger coverage. You could also keep the original stone, so no hurt feelings. I’d just tell him you want something a little blingier, you love the stone, but would like it reset. You get more bling, he knows you are still wearing the stone he gave you…..everybody wins.

Post # 12
977 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Just be honest with him, he might be a little taken aback but if you phrase it like “I love that you did this all on your own and appreciate all the effort you put in it, but when I picture my dream ring it looks a little different”, and not come right out and say you hate it he will survive and you can have an open discussion. He loves you, he wants you to be happy and that should include having a ring that makes you so excited about. It’s not a bad ring at all, you just have different taste and style, there is nothing wrong with that!! My FI bought be the worst diamond necklace ever once, and I was so scared to say I didn’t like it, but I did and he fully understood.  Not to compare smth so special to a shirt, but it’s just like receiving an uglu sweater from grandma. You are thankful for the thought behind it, it’s just not your taste. So dont feel bad about the “ungrateful” comments from bees who have clearly graciously accepted, and never returned, every gift ever given to them.

Post # 15
2855 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Personally, I love the beauty and simplicity of a solitaire.  My SIL has one that is a high quality half carat and she wears it with a gold band stacked with a channel set diamond band.  It looks great.  I have a larger, but slightly lower quality, diamond, because size was an important factor to my FI.  Moreso than it was to me.  That said, I love it and I am grateful to have something he picked out for me!

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