Post # 1
Where to start?
So, when my FI proposed in September it was a “spur of the moment” type thing. We originally wanted to wait until he was off temp status at the plant he works and hired full time before we got engaged, but one night we were sitting in our apartment drinking wine and looking at rings online. We found a cheap(er) $1,000 1/2 ct ring I fell in love with. I’ve always liked the thin band with a bigger diamond. The reason this ring was cheaper is because it isn’t a solitare. The center stone is actually 4 mini stones.
He bought it for me and proposed that weekend. However, he got hired literally a week later. I told him I didn’t really want another ring-maybe just replace the center stones with a solitare. Well this past weekend we were drinking wine once again (Geez, it seems everytime we drink he ends up buying me jewlery!!) and stumbled upon a 1.4 ct moissy WITH matching wedding band. He immediately said if I wanted it-it was mine. So of course I said yes! I had read so many great reviews about the moissy stone and I couldn’t wait to have my own.
He got the ring in the mail today and was sooo excited to give it to me. I opened the box and BAM! It was so shiny! I read that they were shiny but I really wasn’t expecting it to be this shiny. Not a big deal, at first. I put it on and the more I looked at it-the more rainbow refractions I kept seeing. I did not like this AT ALL. Here’s some pics of my ring and the moissy side by side:
(Don’t mind my ugly fingers-my mom always told me I had artist hands haha)
I think these two photos really show the rainbow effect the ring gives off compared to my diamond ring. And here’s a picture of the yellow undertone I read Moissy’s have:
Honestly, the yellow doesn’t bother me at all. I actually liked that aspect of the Moissy stones. But the first two pictures I can’t get over the rainbows!
Also, I felt like I was “cheating” on my original ring. I explained all of this to my FI and he got so upset. He was so excited to give me this “better, bigger” ring and I didn’t even like it. I told him I had no idea it was going to look the way it did, and I had no idea I was so attached to my original e-ring. He’s going to return the rings tomorrow in the mail, and I feel like he’s still upset with me. Not “mad”, just upset.
I told him we should take the money he spent on the new ring and buy a solitare diamond for my ring. He said okay. *sigh*
Which of the two rings do you bees prefer? Any other moissy owners disappointed?
Post # 3
I personally prefer moissanite over diamonds. I think the rainbow sparkles are awesome! But I understand that it isn’t your cup of tea! I hope you like how your ring turns out with the diamond! Good luck! 🙂
Post # 4
Moissanite! But I prefer amora moissanite so it’s whiter. But I LOVE the the rainbows. It’s my favorite thing. It’s double refractive, so thats why it happens.
Post # 5
I wish I knew I didn’t like the rainbow look before I had him buy it for me! Oh well, at least I know now.
Post # 6
Yeah I felt some of the same disappointment when I received my moissy stone and saw it in person for the first time. I had ordered the amora moissy. I guess after reading all the positive reviews I expected I would love it, but for some reason that I can’t put my finger on, I just didn’t have that reaction!
Not that moissy isn’t beautiful in its own right- I definitely own some moissy jewelry 🙂 But for my e-ring, it was a no-go.
Must’ve been tough to burst your FI’s bubble, but it’ll be on your hand, you should be happy with it!
Post # 7
i have a diamond ring only beccause it was a family heirloom otherwiise i would have a mossy. i personally love the rainbow refractino but i knwo its not everyone’s cup of tea. i would say its better that you speak up now about it instead of waiting until you cant return it anymore to say something or keeping and secretly not liking it for the rest of ever.
Post # 8
@kestane: It was really hard seeing him so upset about it! I had no idea he was that excited to give me a bigger ring than the one I already have. It makes ME feel bad, but like you said…I’m the one that has to wear it. And hey, I’m saving him some money since he gets to return it lol.
Post # 9
@aprose: I tried to like it…I really did. But once I get something in my mind, there’s no going back. And I finally admitted to myself I didn’t like it. I wore it all day, inside and outside under natural sunlight. I told him tonight that he should return it because I like my original e-ring better.
Post # 10
@BakerBee16: and i think its really great that you actually gave it a shot and tried to like it. i am the ssame way once i find something its almost impossible to change my mind and both of the rings are beautiful 🙂
Post # 11
I prefer diamonds myself and I think your diamond ring is gorgeous!
Post # 12
I prefer your moissonite ring way more. It is stunning.
Post # 13
They are definitely different. I prefer the way diamond sparkles as well. Another difference is the sort of blurriness when you look at the moissanite facets. If you look at the inside from a few angles you’ll see what I mean. Diamonds don’t have that, their facets have clean and sharp divisions from all angles.
I find it odd when I read some people’s posts on here saying that it’s very hard to tell the difference. A photo may not show the difference well, but like you, in person I don’t find it very hard to see at all. Even from a distance, it behaves differently. I think that when people imply or even state that they are very similar-looking, it causes many people to be in your position and have false hopes, expecting something more diamond-like when they order it.
I also suspect this is why the people who own the patent have moved to an almost all-online model for retailing it, as it’s always harder to “return” something you’ve “bought” than to “not buy” something you’re just “trying on.” Any good marketer knows that. Plus, it’s harder to comparison-shop. If you didn’t have any experience with diamonds, would you realize as quickly that they were as different as they are? I doubt it.
Full disclosure: I also just prefer diamond, period, even if it’s smaller, and even if there was a synthetic stone that nobody could visually tell apart from it. I love me a natural stone from the earth, and I like the directness of something “looking like what it is.”
If you like warmer stones, that’s great. A warmer diamond will be more affordable. Shop around, haggle! Always haggle, there’s such a markup and there’s room to negotiate it down. Go to independent jewelers in your city and online and get the best bang for your buck. Ask about holiday season discounts too! It can take a little time and effort to find just the right diamond for you, but I’m sure you can find one that you love, and that fits your budget too.
Post # 14
I like the moissy ring better. But this is because I am not a quad setting fan.
I do totally get your e-ring loyalty. I upgraded, and still wear my older set frequently- even thought the diamond is a 1/3 of the size of the newie!
Post # 15
A well cut diamond will also throw rainbows, but I’ve never seen moissanite, so I can’t compare. Part of the difference you’re seeing is probably also due to size – the individual diamonds are much smaller than the moissanite and won’t give off large flashes of light.
Post # 16
- Wedding: November 2013 - Garden
I love the rainbows and all of the quirks of my moissy, but they’re definitely not for everyone. Both of your rings are beautiful, and I’m sure your FI will feel better in no time 🙂