Post # 1
I feel really let down.
We invited almost 300 people to our wedding. And we’ve only gotten 140 people who have RSVP’d “yes.”
The RSVP deadline is 2 days away and we still need to hear from 43 couples. I’m assuming that if they haven’t replied yet, they aren’t coming.
My fiance and I were really excited about having a big wedding. My fiance comes from a teeny, tiny family and he was really looking forward to having a new experience with his new family. And since my family is spread out all over the country, I was really excited to see some people I haven’t in years.
We were really looking forward to having a big party, lots of dancing, etc.
And this might sound a little selfish, but more people always means more gifts/money. And we were going to use some of that cash for our honeymoon, but we were also planning to give some of it back to my parents for helping us pay for the wedding and our house. (it wasn’t a loan, so it’s not like they’re expecting us to pay them back, but we thought it would be a nice gesture).
I don’t know.
I just feel really let down and disapointed.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t assume that because you haven’t heard from people they aren’t coming. Also, 140 is plenty for a good party!
Post # 4
I agree with PP. 140 is a pretty big wedding. Jus think – you will have more time to see your guests than if there were 300 people. Seing out of state family would be very difficult.
I’m sure you will be at or above 200. Don’t stress!!
Post # 5
People procrastinate like crazy with RSVPs!! Don’t count anyone out just yet!
Post # 6
@Stace126: Sorry you have such a high rate of “no” RSVPs!
You might wind up with another 40 or 50 “yes” RSVPs when you hunt down weather people will be able to make it or not!
That would bring it up to like 200 people, which is a pretty huge wedding!
Post # 7
If part of what you wanted was money, wouldn’t you be saving tha with a smaller guest count on per head charges…?
Post # 8
we were suppose to have 100 and I think we’re at 50. I’m really disappointed because I would have invited more people instead of it mostly being SO’s family. 🙁
Post # 9
We have 18 ppl rsvpd yes to ours. 140 would make me freak out!
Post # 10
@Asia: My parents are paying for a majority of the wedding so no.
Post # 11
We had 125 people at our wedding, and I’m so glad we had the people that were really important to us and who were truly happy to celebrate our marriage. Isn’t that more important than the number? I don’t mean to lecture, and I’m sorry you are feeling disappointed, but is having the most people you could possibly stuff in a room what’s really important?
More to the point, I agree with other PPs that I wouldn’t assume those people aren’t coming. People can be pretty bad about getting rsvp’s in on time.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
Seems like even though to haven’t heard back it doesn’t mean they’re “no”s , wait to see after the deadline passes and you follow up with them. You could still end up with close to 200 like others have said and that’s a lot.
We’re having around 120 people. FMIL keeps telling us to expect a 50% decline rate based on FSIL’s wedding but she invited 400 and 250 accepted. I think the people we invited are all close family and a few close friends so I don’t expect our rate to be so high.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t count the ones who haven’t RSVPd as no yet though. We are wanting 300 people at our wedding so were inviting 350 for this reason. It sucks but your wedding will still be awesome!
Post # 14
@Stace126: We are in the same boat!! Invited over 280 people and only have 134 accepts (with about 80 outstanding with two days till the deadline). I was worried about going over capacity…but now I guess I could have invited a few more of my friends I thought we didn’t have room for!
Post # 15
@Stace126: We had around 90 ppl at ours and it was a partyyyy so I’m sure 140 will be just as fun
Post # 16
What number are you at?
Don’t let it upset you – this will be the greatest day!