disappointed with # of guests attending

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t assume that because you haven’t heard from people they aren’t coming. Also, 140 is plenty for a good party!

Post # 4
1318 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree with PP. 140 is a pretty big wedding. Jus think – you will have more time to see your guests than if there were 300 people. Seing out of state family would be very difficult.

I’m sure you will be at or above 200. Don’t stress!!

Post # 5
5935 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

People procrastinate like crazy with RSVPs!! Don’t count anyone out just yet! 

Post # 6
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Stace126:  Sorry you have such a high rate of “no” RSVPs!

You might wind up with another 40 or 50 “yes” RSVPs when you hunt down weather people will be able to make it or not!

That would bring it up to like 200 people, which is a pretty huge wedding!

Post # 7
2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If part of what you wanted was money, wouldn’t you be saving tha with a smaller guest count on per head charges…?

Post # 8
789 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

we were suppose to have 100 and I think we’re at 50. I’m really disappointed because I would have invited more people instead of it mostly being SO’s family. 🙁

Post # 9
2358 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We have 18 ppl rsvpd yes to ours. 140 would make me freak out!

Post # 11
2256 posts
Buzzing bee

We had 125 people at our wedding, and I’m so glad we had the people that were really important to us and who were truly happy to celebrate our marriage. Isn’t that more important than the number? I don’t mean to lecture, and I’m sorry you are feeling disappointed, but is having the most people you could possibly stuff in a room what’s really important?




More to the point, I agree with other PPs that I wouldn’t assume those people aren’t coming. People can be pretty bad about getting rsvp’s in on time. 




Post # 12
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

Seems like even though to haven’t heard back it doesn’t mean they’re “no”s , wait to see after the deadline passes and you follow up with them. You could still end up with close to 200 like others have said and that’s a lot. 

We’re having around 120 people. FMIL keeps telling us to expect a 50% decline rate based on FSIL’s wedding but she invited 400 and 250 accepted. I think the people we invited are all close family and a few close friends so I don’t expect our rate to be so high. 

Post # 13
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I wouldn’t count the ones who haven’t RSVPd as no yet though. We are wanting 300 people at our wedding so were inviting 350 for this reason. It sucks but your wedding will still be awesome!

Post # 14
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Stace126:  We are in the same boat!! Invited over 280 people and only have 134 accepts (with about 80 outstanding with two days till the deadline).  I was worried about going over capacity…but now I guess I could have invited a few more of my friends I thought we didn’t have room for!

Post # 15
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Stace126:  We had around 90 ppl at ours and it was a partyyyy so I’m sure 140 will be just as fun

Post # 16
2341 posts
Buzzing bee

What number are you at?

Don’t let it upset you – this will be the greatest day!

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