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I hate that this is a negative post, but I need to vent to the hive. My bridal shower was yesterday and it wasn't what I expected. First of all, my MOH forgot about the shower and didn't really plan anything. She sent the invitations out and the guests received them about a week before the shower. She waited until the day of the shower to plan, and then she told me that she needed me to help. I was always under the impression that the shower was thrown for the bride. I didn't know the bride was supposed to be involved in the planning and organizing of the shower. The morning of the shower, we had a corporate tug of war we were to participate in. My MOH and I drove over together and got ready to kick some butt. My fiancee came with our dog to support me and right before our event, she began to complain of a stomach pain. She kept telling me she didn't feel well and felt very hot and wanted to go home. I told her to just go home and get some rest, and then she told me that she felt faint...and then she passed out. Thankfully, I caught her, and someone called the paramedics. I followed the ambulance to the ER and no sooner had we gotten in the emergency room did my MOH call me to ask me what she should do about the shower because she thought it should be canceled since I was at the hospital and she couldn't get everything ready by herself.

I was irate. I thought it was rude and terribly selfish of her to call me about something so trivial when I was at the hospital with my fiancee and at this point, had absoultely no idea what had caused her to lose consciousness and I was subsequently worried sick.My fiancee ended up leaving the hospital against medical advice because she felt better once she had been hydrated. My MOH delayed the shower by a few hours and when I got there, it was just awkward. I bought a game a week before, and thank God I did because she didn't have any activities planned. I actually had to ask her to facilitate the game because she assumed I would do it. I don't know. It just seemed like she didn't put any thought into it whatsoever, and I know she was irritated with me because I couldn't help her during the day. My feelings are hurt, but I felt like I had to walk on egg shells around her all evening because I didn't want her to be upset. I do appreciate her throwing the shower and hosting it in her home. I know it was not something she HAD to do, but  I wish she would have put more effort into it. This whole ordeal took some of my excitement about the wedding away

I believe she has been a bridesmaid before, but it was at her father's wedding 15 years ago and she was still a child. I don't want to say anything because I think it will make matters worse. She has not apologized, so I am betting she does not feel she is at fault for anything. I just need to get through the next 11 days and stay as upbeat and stress-free as possible. I need to forgive her, but I am still irritated...LOL! We work together, so I need to keep the work environment friendly as well.

Thanks for the feedback. I tend to be overdramatic at times and do not want to cross the line into bridezillaism. Thanks for keeping me grounded.

On an unrelated topic, is it odd that the seamstress did not take my measurements at my first fitting last week? I found it to be strange.

@ Laylabelle: I believe it was a combination of both, actually. She doesn't drink enough fluids and it was quite warm out that day. She is back to her old self; it was so scary to see her disoriented like that.

Sorry to hear it went so poorly!!!  That is to bad that she wasn't thinking more of you.  I hope your fiance is doing better!  Just enjoy the wedding day coming up and know it will be a blast:)