disappointing shoot with my wedding photog

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
549 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

i’d say wait until you hear back from her. if she’s worth her salt, 1) she’s probably super full of anxiety over your dissatisfaction and 2) working on wording the perfect response and figuring out what her plan of action is.

if it were me, i’d offer you a reshoot after talking with you to find out specifically what you didn’t like.

Post # 5
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@cateyes:  I would requests reshoot too!


She should oblige you. Has she done a lot of boudiour before? Did you guys have engagement pics? Have you seen other pics of hers you like? I’m just wondering if maybe this is a fluke. If she doesn’t satisfy you on this issue I would def look for another photographer. 

Post # 7
980 posts
Busy bee

Boudoir shoots are different so maybe she just isn’t experienced in that department? It’s great that you have this opportunity to work with her before your wedding though. I hope she pulls through and does a free reshoot for you. 

ETA: If you can’t work anything out, at least you have time to find a new photog. Annoying as that may be.

Post # 8
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@harringtonkat:  Have you shown the photos to a friend who can be honest with you? It’s hard to know if it’s a problem with her or just how you are reacting to photos of yourself!

I was really surprised with how weird I felt about some of our pro photos – I felt I was almost unrecognizable in some of them, but everyone reassured me that they are beautiful.

Although, she really shouldn’t have sent the blinking photos – that’s weird!

Post # 9
349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We had the same issue with our wedding photographer.. Work on his website was awesome, the photos we got were awful.
After a second shoot we gave up the deposit and booked someone else.
Photos are super important and wedding photos can’t be retaken.. Don’t risk it.

Post # 11
1887 posts
Buzzing bee

@remijp:  I agree with the importance of asking a friend’s opinion.

@harringtonkat:  I would get another opinion from a trusted friend. Photos are such a personal thing and we are so critical of ourselves.  

Post # 12
4732 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m sorry that you were happy with them. 🙁

Here’s the thing with photography, you really can’t be a master of everything. That’s why Bee’s see us photographers cringe when someone posts that they’ve hired their photographer and they’re “a really awesome family photographer and no doubt will do great at our wedding”. Well…..that’s not usually the case. Different avenues of photography are, well, vastly different.

You wouldn’t hire a family photographer to shoot your wedding, and you wouldn’t hire a wedding photographer to shoot your newborn. Now yes, there are SOME photographers who are well versed in all areas and can execute it well. That’s not always the case. 

Boudior is really specialized, and it takes a detailed eye to shoot that. You have to have a whole different way of thinking when it comes to posing, lighting, and shooting. 

Did you see an entire wedding shot by this photographer before you hired her? I would just wait it out to see what she says. Maybe she’ll opt to give you a refund or even partial refund. 

Post # 13
549 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@harringtonkat:  where did the shoot take place? was it in a studio? your house? a hotel room? i completely agree that including blinking shots is really weird…but perhaps she was doing something different lighting/style-wise in an attempt to 1) keep her creative juices flowing 2) provide the kind of aesthetic she thought you were looking for…and it may have been a new technique? she might be reacting to how she feels about how the overall effort turned out and forgetting to look at you as a person, rather than as her paint on canvas, so to speak.

for instance, doing lots of extrapolating based on your initial post, i can see how i might have decided to do a shoot like this for you in a room with very low light and just bare bulb/directed light to give you that old hollywood retro vibe a la:


if you want a photographer’s opinion, you can message me. i’d be happy to take a look. as a photographer, i am always super anxious when someone doesn’t like their photographs on a msg board, bc i can identify with the photographer…now i’m in the other shoes…and it’s just anxiety all the way around! 😀 haha, also, i did a shoot with my bff attempting to get this sort of low light/hollywood glam effect. it wasn’t a total failure, but it’s tough if you’re not in a full studio, with full studio lights/equipment. (read: ours was done on my bed with black sheets as a backdrop and a lamp with no shade. macguyvering is hard work!) 

Post # 14
631 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@harringtonkat:  A few things concern me – blurry, dark, delivering photos of you mid-blink . . . these are issues that throw up some red flags about how professional your photographer is. If your photographer isn’t able to take properly exposed and focused images in a controlled setting like a boudoir shoot I would be really concerned about their ability to handle the fast-paced, unpredictable nature of wedding photography. Feel free to PM me a link to the gallery if you’d like – I can take a look and tell you whether it’s an issue that should really concern you for the wedding. Or if you would rather PM me their site instead of your own photos and I can take a look at their wedding work and see if there are red flags. Obviously if it is an issue of skill then a reshoot isn’t going to do much good, you know?


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