Disappointing wedding dress shopping experience

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
10883 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@allinoelle:  This is one of the reasons I was determined to purchase a dress made of natural fibers and not one made of synthetic ones.  I would try on some gowns that are made of silk.

Post # 4
1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Suggestion- you probably want to purchase an organic fabric rather than a synthetic one.  Organic/nature fabrics are generally lighter and more breathable. Additionally you might want to decide on the type of dress that will be lighter, for example an A line is much lighter in general than a ball gown.

Good luck!  You might have to spend a little more to get what you are looking for, but you will find it!

Post # 5
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@allinoelle:  Oh girl, I’ve now been to three stores and among the 3, I don’t think I’ve tried on 40 dresses, because I get to a point where I am both literally and figuratively melting down.  You are tougher than me! Why are they all so heavy and hot?  I don’t know.  They look ethereal and pretty in photos and on the hanger, and then you pick the thing up to put it on and it weighs a ton and you wonder, how am I supposed to hang out in this (let alone walk, stand around, eat, and dance) for 5+ hours without fainting?

I have no advice but so much sympathy.

Post # 6
1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@allinoelle:  I understand how you’re feeling. I went to many appointments, and tried on MANY dresses and didn’t have much luck there for a while.


As the other Bees have mention, look for natural fibers. You didn’t mention the style of dresses you liked/tried on. I would suggest sheath dresses too as they’re lighter and flowy.  You can aso go with a chiffon bridesmaids dress ordered in white/ivory, as that is very light and flowy, which is perfect for an outdoor wedding.


Another piece advice based on my experience was that I wanted extra volume on the bottom.  I was able to notice a HUGE difference between the crinoline and a hoop skirt. A hoop skirt was amazing for air flow and circulation, great for a July wedding (I was considering it for my wedding, for the air flow and because I have sensitive skin and the hoop skirt is better because it wouldn’t touch my legs). The dress I went with didn’t need a hoop afterall, but that was definitely important to me.


Good luck!! You WILL find the dress of your dreams!!!!!

Post # 7
20 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

Try Macys or other department stores.  They have nice, lightweight dresses.

Post # 8
790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I thought the same thing and was all “nuh uh, no way am I lasting all day in these dresses.”

Enter organza! My 2 top runners are this material, 1 is a ball gown, 1 is a fit and flare and they were so comfortable and light!

Post # 9
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

My dress was 53 pounds! So I get heavy dresses.

I’d look for something in a light fabric (like organza) with a cotton lining! That should help keep you cool.

Post # 10
79 posts
Worker bee

What silhouette are you trying on?

I knew from the start I didn’t want a heavy dress so I stuck with sheath and slim A-lines. Two piece dresses (satin slip with lace overlay) are really comfortable and lightweight too. For a fuller dress, organza is great too.

Post # 12
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn

@allinoelle:  i dont know whether its the same in canada but i know when i went shopping (in UK) the dresses that the stores stocked were very season influenced – when i first started looking the dresses were ALL really ‘beachy’, ‘summer’ styles – empire line, chiffon, light and airy… October in UK is usually COLD so i didnt really want a light dress. i waited a few months and the heavier, thicker materials started coming in. 

im completely naive as to what your seasons are like in canada and what the temperatures are like throughout the year…. but it looks like they are a little similar to UK. maybe the lighter style dresses will be coming in ready for next summer in the next few months? 

hope you find something.xxx

Post # 13
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I can totally relate! Don’t worry. Dress shopping can be a long(ish) experience and it’s important to stay calm and take my sister’s (excellent) advice: “There are thousands and thousands of absolutely gorgeous dresses out there, and you will get one”. I also felt kind of discouraged after the first trip, and I totally hear you on the “heavyness” of some dresses. You will find one though! Try to have fun with it!


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