- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2017
So, a while back my FI and I had a problem with the ring he originally proposed with losing diamonds after only two months (they were bead-welded in and I am apparently hard on jewelry, not a good combo) so we took it back. Despite how materialistic it was, I was really sad not having a ring… He had proposed and I wanted something to show for it, literally. I wanted to be able to show symbolically the relationship we have to all my friends and family. So I started shopping around online for diamond alternatives (I’ve never been a fan of diamonds because I don’t trust that they are ethically sources) and had pretty much committed to the idea of moissanite. It is tougher and more brilliant then diamond and it made sense to me to buy it. The only problems were a) moissaniteco.com convinces you that you NEED an Amora enhanced moissanite and then b) only carries them in the most popular shapes. I’ve had my heart set on a oval champagne diamond for ages (or at least before I was aware of the travesty that is the diamond trade), so I decided I could live with a cushion in the Amora – but I was still desperate for a little color. Then slowly but surely they started selling out of all reasonable sizes of cushion Amoras. I had picked out a few rings and put them on a wishlist for the FI but neither of us was truely passionate about any of the options. There were big cushion and little cushions, yellow cushions and pink cushions… Clearly, I was very indecisive. We weren’t buying yet, which now I’m thankful for, but, at the time, was really pissed about. We got in to arguments about money and ring shopping and it was just a disaster.
So all the while I’m looking at these moissanite rings and settling for, essentially, a white cushion solitaire, I was also on Etsy and WB. All the time. So about two months ago, I was creeping the Ring boards and a bee had a cushion morganite in a halo. I died. It looked like a champagne diamond! So then I went to Etsy and typed in “oval morganite” – they were ALL beautiful. I added probably ten different rings to my favorites and called FI to gush about this stone I’d discovered on WB (he laughs at me that I’m on here all the time) and to check my Etsy favorites as soon as possible. While waiting for him to call/Skype me (we’re a long distance relationship), I found THE ring. It wasn’t oval. It wasn’t a solitaire. It wasn’t small. It was, however, the most perfect ring I’d ever seen (for me, at least). It was a nearly 2.5 carat, pear-shaped morganite with a halo, and diamonds on the band. Oh yeah, it had diamonds. Real diamonds.
My FI Skyped me that evening and said he wasn’t sure about the morganite. Since I’m fairly hard on my jewelry he wasn’t sure if it was hard enough and had a few other concerns. Needless to say, when I showed him my “perfect ring” and it was almost entirely the opposite of anything I’d ever asked for… He had a lot more concerns. For a month now we have been talking about my “perfect ring” with him asking me pretty much the same questions over and over again. I was pretty sure he wasn’t convinced until this morning. I went to check up on her, the ring, as I do every morning when I’m having my coffee and SHE WASN’T IN MY ETSY FAVORITES. I went in to sheer panic mode, let a few tears fly, and then got to searching. I got three or four pages in to the shop’s listings before I spotted “Reserved for Jay…” HE PUT A DOWN PAYMENT ON MY PERFECT RING! Now, I’m a mess of snot and tears (even as I write this) because I’M SO EXCITED! He’s a little mad that the seller put his name on the listing and it’s not a surpise any more but I’M SO HAPPY. Plus, it’s not like the “proposal” (I think he’s going to repropose, that’s how lame the first ring was ) won’t be a surprise just because I know the ring is MINE (SHE’S MINE ALLLL MINE MWAHAHAHA) Sorry Ladies, I’m just giddy!
Here she is: