(Closed) Disconnection with family.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I definately had some of those feelings over the last few years. Growing up the holidays were such a treat! Everyone came together, it was full of laughter, smiles and love. We ate , drank and it was just one of those rare moments in life where you feel content.

Then people get married, divorced, some die, move away, have kids and all of the sudden rifts form and people fall through the cracks. All of our family traditions [x-mas, easter, etc etc] fizzled out with time or they just changed, it feels off.

I too am looking forward to starting new traditions, and started a few years ago and it really has been fun! Just think that some day, you and your future husband will be hosting all these big ol family events, and the children will just love it- just like you did!

Hopefully you and your FI’s family can eventually work things out, just because regardless of holidays it never feels good to have disconection with family!

Post # 4
2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am so sorry. I does sound like you need to start your own holiday traditions. I have! It is even possible to “adopt” people into your family. I do that all the time. All that is needed to make a family is love. Find some nice people and start your own traditions with them. 🙂

Post # 5
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i remember a friend from a good close family said almost the same thing, she said since her and her siblings married it seemed the family was falling apart because they werent as close anymore

hopefully you and your Fiance will be able to reconnect with family and friends, maybe next year you will be able to invite them to your home to start the process

Post # 6
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Rouquine: I’m sorry things are so rough for you and your Fiance this year. I echo the life changes Mrs.Argentina described, and the need to start new traditions. The torch is being passed to you for your own family. I moved a couple times, to another country and eventually, across the US. I wasn’t near family and so, during the holidays, I would have a big dinner with friends to bring that warm feeling and those happy voices into my home…and now I have my own family in addition to those friends. So, it’ll all come back to you in time. Just keep making it special for yourselves, you and your Fiance, whatever you can do to start your own traditions now, however silly or small, do them, soak them up, and continue them next year. 🙂

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