Discouraged bride to be :( Flowers & Cake! Please help suggestions!!!

posted 3 years ago in Food
Post # 3
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

There are lots of ways to save money if you are flexible.

For decorations, even if you don’t want to do them yourself, you could just use tons of candles in the middle of the tables, or do very simple arragements [not hard to put flowers in a vase!], or you could order pre-made centerpieces from Sams Club if they are in your area.

For the cake, if you really don’t want to spend TONS of money on a cake, you could get a local store or grocery shop to make it, this would shave HUNDREDS off your cake price.


Post # 4
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Kris_Dem:  I think of a budget of $800-1000 for flowers is fine, if you are DIYing them.

No florist will make centrepieces and 7 bouquets for that amount.  They wouldn’t make any money.

I am in Canada too, and my quotes for 3 bouquets ranged from $410-700 alone.  I am ordering all my flowers through Costco and making my own centrepieces.

Two florists said if I wanted centrepieces done it would start at $3000.

As for a cake, find someone who does it as a hobby.  My coworker is making mine.  If your expecting to pay so little, unfortuntely you can’t expect perfection either, keep that in mind.

And don’t worry, we didn’t want to spend as much as we are, but it is what it is. We save where we can and slurge on things that matter.  To  me, a cake is a low priority.


Post # 5
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Kris_Dem:  Cakes are expensive but typically a lot of hours of work goes into them -even the deceptively simple looking ones. To save money I would suggest you use fresh flowers on your cake rather than sugar flowers as these can jack up the price quite a bit. Consider as well going two tier rather than three (if you are having a large wedding and do need a lot of cake then just get a slab for out the back. Typically with 3 tier wedding cakes though there is often a lot left over.) Look into smaller bakeries and grocery stores too for cheaper options 🙂

Post # 6
2894 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Kris_Dem:  I’m not sure where you are, but $300 will get you three small single tiered cakes with no decoration, OR one small single tiered cutting cake and Costco sheet cake. 

$800 – $1k is a budget for DIY bouquets (for that many bouquets) unless you’re doing baby’s breath bouquets or something similar. For centerpieces, maybe think about super simple candles with just one big floating bloom? I think you’re being a bit unrealistic because 12 centerpieces, even small ones, are still a lot to arrange. 

I’m saving on my centerpieces by having edible centerpieces – cake stands that will hold the muffins and scones for the table and having a more New Orleans-style reception. It’s not for everyone, but something to consider. 

Post # 7
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Kris_Dem:  What kind of flowers are you looking for? As you say real flowers die, its a known fact so maybe looking into real touch flowers (sold at michaels/hobby lobby) could be another option. Real Touch flowers are silk flowers and depends on what type you are looking for, they look and feel just as real. I went to Hobby Lobby in the states ( I live on a bordering city) and loved the callallies and I’m thinking of doing that but waiting for my decorator to get back to me.

As for cake there are cheaper options. What about doing a dummy cake (fake tiers) with the top being real for you and your fh to cut into and having sheet cakes in the back that they can cut into and serve? I know where I live it depended on what baker you went with whether or not it was a cheaper option. Something to think about. 

Post # 8
19 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

For centerpieces, you don’t necessarily have to do flowers. My friend did laterns with a candle in it and a wreath around it (fall theme) and it looked really nice. I have 6 bridesmaids, 16 tables to put flowers on, and ceremony flowers and its costing me about $1200 but i live in Canada. Try to pick flowers that are in season or ask if there are options for less opulant flowers. my table flowers are peonies with stocks and some greens so nothing crazy and i’m giving them mason jars to put them in. my bouquets are a mix of mums, peonies, carnations and stocks to look more like a rustic bouquet. to try to find out if theres alternative flowers that you could use. i kept insisting i wanted Dahlias but they werent in season so it would of cost me but she found these mums that look so much like dahlias and are far less expensive.

for the cake, are you looking for the cake to feed everyone? our venue has a dessert option so we’re letting people do that and we just got a small one tier cake for us to cut into that will feed us two and the head table. it’s an option you could look at. We’re getting our one tier cake through a cupcake shop and its only $45 but is delicious! So theres options

Best of luck!

Post # 9
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Kris_Dem:  keep shopping for a cake! At my God Daughter’s wedding last weekend, she had a small, simple two tiered cake she ordered for $50 from a local baker. The sneaky part is she also ordered two delicious sheet cakes from Costco, and left them in the kitchen. They were cut and plated in the back and served to the guests after she and her husband did their formal cake cutting. It worked like a charm, and no one knew. The sheet cakes were around $20 each. So, $90 for dessert for over 100 people, with tons left over. 🙂


I DIY’d my flowers for my wedding. (Bouquets were brooch and pearls, so only DIYd the reception flowers). I got 120 Juliet garden roses, as well as rose petals, for like $500. It was really super easy to do, and saved us a boatload. 

Post # 10
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Girl, I feel your pain!  I am having similar issues, and my flower budget is even smaller than yours.

First, have you looked at Costco.com?  They have wedding packages that come with pre-arranged bouquets and centerpieces, or you can just get boxes of roses and plunk them into vases (which you can buy cheap at Ikea or secondhand stores).  

If you aren’t that picky about colors and there is one nearby, Trader Joe’s often has nice flower centerpieces for about $15.

Also, one thing to consider for bridesmaids is having them carry a single calla lily rather than a full bouquet (or three tied together with a ribbon).

Finally, another option we are looking at for centerpieces is actual potted plants.  If there is a local nursery, talk to them about what they will have in stock in September – potted herbs or flowers may be a nice alternative (and a nice, more durable gift for people who helped with your wedding planning).

Good luck!

Post # 11
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Kris_Dem:  I would look into non-floral centerpieces – you could get something really nice for much less. 

Post # 12
774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Kris_Dem:  Based on what you are talking about in terms of numbers, our budgets seem to be very similar. I found a very great, reputable cake baker who is doing a four tier cake for us with fondant lace appliques, etc. for I believe $800! So definitely keep looking. The first cake person I went to talked about a very simplistic design that was like, $1300. As far as flowers go, I’ve found that you really just need to tell them what your budget is. Our planner told us not to tell the florist the budget and we got a $15,000 estimate. Be up front. 

Post # 13
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Fresh flowers instead of icing flowers will definitely save you a good amount, and in terms of the flowers you probably already know some are more expensive than others. The more leaves and berries and all those other “texture” plants look just as pretty and can be much cheaper, and some you can get dried and no one will know the difference. I honestly regret even using real flowers, I saw a bunch of dried bouquets on Etsy I liked so much more and would have saved a lot of money with.

Post # 14
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


  • consider using in season flowers
  • consider using filler flowers that are cheap (carnations) to make the bouquet lush and then add a few more expensive flowers (calla lily, rose, etc)
  • consider using more greens in the centerpieces and bouquets



  •  i found that a lot of cake goes uneaten so think about shrinking the size of your cake
  • consider having your florist add flowers to the cake (cheaper than the baker adding flowers)


Post # 15
1197 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Definitely look at Costco/Sam’s club!  Or even your local grocery store – I think our Giant Eagle does wedding florals.  We’re getting our flowers and cake from Costco. 

I’m getting a cake stand and putting round cakes on it, with flowes between the tiers.  It will come out a lot cheaper than a proper stacked cake. 

Our centerpieces will be candles and picture frames from the Dollar Store.  Definitely also look at the Dollar Store website – they have tons of cheap stuff, and ship it to your local DS for free!

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