Discouraged by cost.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
825 posts
Busy bee

I feel your pain. The only way that I have been able to get through is to make a list of priorities. The top three (which for me were venue, photographer, and food) I haven’t compromised on at all. I just got what I wanted and will make cuts further down the list. it made it easier to say: I got my dream venue, so I don’t really need to pay $300 for uplighting or $150 to have our monogram shine on the dancefloor.

Post # 4
42135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MoonlitMagnolia:  It is hard! Especilally if this is the first large scale social event you have planned- and for most of us it is.

Try to keep your focus on the marriage rather than the wedding. The ceremony is what will make you married. The reception can take almost any format, depending on the couple involved, the budget, their priorities etc etc etc

Start with your budget. How much do you want to spend on the day?

Determine your priorities. Are they photography, family and food? Spend your money there.

You can easily be sucked into thinking certain items are absolutely necessary when you look at weddings online. Chair covers are never necessary. Chairs are. Favors are never necessary. Food and drink are.

Find out where you get the most bang for your buck that still fits  with your vision and your priorities. If a gourmet dinner is beyond your budget and food is important to you, consider the world’s best brunch buffet by changing the time of the wedding.

Post # 5
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

julies1949 makes a good point. sit down, figure out your budget before you do anything. and she’s right about the neccessities.

also, may through october is height wedding season. all the costs go up during those months.

$300 for a dance floor is average- look at rental companies in the area. see if it’s any less through one of the companies. and $200 for security? like, security guards? i don’t see the need for security guards unless you’re in like, an outside area.

Post # 6
3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MoonlitMagnolia:  We did ours at a restaurant.  We bought out the whole place; it was much more affordable than we thought.  We were able to rearrange the tables, etc.  Buying out a restaurant is done on a minimum spend basis, which means you must buy a certain amount of food and drink.  There should be no actual rental fee for the place.  So, pick one where you like the food and the decor, phone, ask to speak to the manager, and tell him you are interested in buying them out for a private event, and what is their minimum spend.  It will be higher on Fridays and Saturdays, of course.

You could also find a place that does not open for lunch if you want a day time reception, and that might be quite affordable.

Wait as long as possible before using the word “wedding” in any dealing with vendors.

Post # 7
809 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Catal Restaurant

I feel the same way sometimes. The good news is you have loads of time to research and find better deals. Another bee mentioned restaurants that host weddings which tend to be a lot cheaper than hotels. Just try to keep calm and explore all options before you let the stress get to you. Remember time is on your side right now!!

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