(Closed) Discovered Your Ex Got Engaged/Married/Had Kid, And Felt Sad?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Ex 'moved on' somehow and you found out.....
    I cried and was really depressed : (28 votes)
    13 %
    I was happy for him/her : (30 votes)
    14 %
    I didn't care : (103 votes)
    49 %
    I just love polls : (48 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1584 posts
    Bumble bee

    @Sweet_Tea:  I never wanted a future with any exes so I’m either happy for the or ambivalent depending on if we’re still friends. I will say that all of my married exes w/ or w/out kids still express regret that they couldnt marry me (my choice). I just laugh and keep it moving.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1431 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I felt like this once, but that was because an ex of mine and I broke up and the very NEXT day he had a new girlfriend. But other than that I’ve never felt sad. I’ve been happy when my exes have moved on actually. As long as they are happy, then I’m happy for them.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1431 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @subtlebee:  Yeah, well I was pissed at him for it most definitely. Oddly enough we stayed on semi friendly terms pretty much after that. Well until I met my FI and he realized that I wasn’t coming back to him again, haha. Then I became the evil woman who wouldn’t let him move on.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1584 posts
    Bumble bee

    @Tarheelgurl:  he seems to have moved on a little too quickly in my book! oh well last laugh is yours!

    Post # 8
    Member
    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    This was a timely question. While I was waiting in the dentist office yesterday, I picked up a very old magazine, and there was an article about my ex and his wife (minor celebrities both, apparently, which was news to me – as was the fact that he was married). 

    A I looked at the picture of my old love, my first love, and his wife I couldn’t help feeling… smug. My FI is so much better looking. Shallow? Perhaps, but that was really all I felt. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    2271 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Tibbs:  “As I looked at the picture of my old love, my first love, and his wife I couldn’t help feeling… smug. My FI is so much better looking. Shallow? Perhaps, but that was really all I felt.

    This made me laugh.

    When I found out my ‘first love’ was dating someone new (his first relationship since me) and though I was/am in a relationship (with FI-to-be) I kinda felt odd, like I wanted to see what she was like etc. Without sounding like a complete b!tch, I am a lot prettier/higher educated/kinder person then she is: I felt as if I had upgraded and he had down graded.

    And as Tibbs put; Shallow? Perhaps.

    Post # 10
    Member
    240 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think my reaction to discoverin my ex got married can be summed up thusly: Huh. When did that happen? -wanders off to get a snack-

    Post # 11
    Member
    7885 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Sweet_Tea: Remind yourself how bad he was! When I heard he was engaged (before me, but I was already with my now DH) I thought “I’m glad it wasn’t me”. I also felt a little sorry for his fiancee.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1406 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I guess b/c all my exes were from a LONG time ago that I just don’t care.  One ex married the girl he started dating after me and after 13 yrs of marriage, they finally had their first baby a couple of years ago.

    Another ex…that took him a while to get over me apparently…found his now wife on a dating site. She got her BFP on their 1 yr anniversary but MC at 36 weeks…and it almost killed her.  For 6 months, she was just trying to stay alive but once the docs gave her the ok to get PG again, she did and they have a beautiful 2 month old now. He and I talked during the process….it was amazing to see him grow as a person…and all he cared about was NOT losing his wife. So nope, I was not jealous of them at all.  

    I really really wish my exH would meet someone, get married again, and procreate.  Our marriage counselor told me he’d be remarried before me b/c he was “a catch”..good job, no kids, etc.  It’s been over 3 years and he’s yet to get serious with anyone.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1509 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’ve never really cared, I even went to one of their weddings. He’s a nice guy but I definitey did beter in the long run lol

    Post # 15
    Member
    653 posts
    Busy bee

    @Sweet_Tea:  depends who did the dumping and why the break up happened. It can go either way you know? Lol 

    Post # 16
    Member
    4315 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Both my major 2 exes have neither been married nor had kids since we’ve split.  And it’s been a long time…at this point I doubt I would care.  Ex 2 already had kids when we were together and had been married before, so if it happened again I doubt I would even flinch.

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