Discuss birth-control methods with FI or not?

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
24457 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I decided on my own because of health issues that determine my choices but still told him what I was doing.

Post # 4
858 posts
Busy bee

Do discuss.. it just voided any question or discussion of confusion later on 🙂

Post # 5
1125 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

When we got together I was already on the pill so I just stayed on it. I think we did have a discussion to decide if we wanted to use condoms anyway, but I’m not sure since it’s been 7 years.

We had many discussions about it after having our kids and even though a decision has been made, we’ll continue to have the discussion until he goes through with it! 🙂

Post # 6
1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had my IUD in place before I even met my hubby, but we discussed birth control before becoming intimate.

Post # 7
1838 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

well i definitely didnt’ care what kind he wanted me to use/chose myself, but he knew what i was using.

Post # 8
8678 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

We discussed all options and what we wanted for us as a couple. I wanted to go on the shot when we began dating but after a lot of research on both our parts (He even consulted his flight doctor) we decided that the health risks weren’t worth it. He wouldn’t have fought me if I was determined to go on the shot but he asked I choose a different method. Ultimately the decision was mine, but we discussed everything as a couple.

Post # 10
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I’ve been on the pill for almost 15 years. It seems to be doing it’s job, so he’s on board with that.

Post # 11
8850 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

?  I don’t understand why you wouldn’t discuss this with him??  You need to make sure you’re both disease-free (or not), what his preferences are, a plan for if something goes wrong, etc etc!  

Post # 12
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@ALazi:  We discussed it together. He was pretty informed on BC methods so he knew what he didnt trust or like. We decided on an IUD together and it works well for us, we are very open and I wanted him to feel confident in the method.

Post # 13
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ALazi:  Absolutely yes. (Besides, you can’t really decide on a condom without consulting him!)

If I had switched from one form of female BC to another, that would have been my choice. But as it turned out we switched from The Pill to condoms/spermicide a few months into marriage, so obviously that had to be a mutual decision.

Post # 14
2896 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i waited until i was married to have sex and until we took our nfp class, we never really talked much about it. we both just kind of assumed i’d go on the pill and/or we’d use condoms. but once we started learning nfp we started to really talk about the pros/cons of everything and we both decided that we’d like to practice nfp. if i ever decide that i don’t want to continue with it, i would definitely discuss it with my husband first. 

Post # 15
3354 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yes. This is for sure and certain something you should discuss with a sexual partner!

Post # 16
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

You obviously need to discuss it with him if you’re going to use condoms. But yes I have always discussed BC with boyfriends and my husband. They don’t ultimately make the decision for me re: wether I take a pill or have an IUD but it is discussed. Clearly they need to know what I’m doing if we’re having sex without a condom.

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