- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
When I started looking, I was pinning dresses I liked, so my honey saw the dresses I was leaning towards. He’s very guy-like……he has no sense of womens fashion anyways, so he made some vague “I liked those onese you had pinned!” comments but that was it. 😉
I eventually took them all down though and made a private board, just so he’d be surprised. I could show up in rags and he wouldn’t care, so it’s not that big of a deal.
i gave FI about 20 dresses, pictures, to look at and he let me know which ones he liked best…then I went from there. He picked some crazy ones…I threw some off the wall ones in there, and of course, he picks those.
I’m leaning towards 1 of 2 of his picks. He didn’t like some of them because he thought they were too big at the bottom. Ah, yeah, because they are wedding dresses! LOL
He’d prefer a wedding dress painted on me though…..Men!
It will just be FI and me on a beach in Hawaii, but I keep hinting that I want a big ballgown with ruffles, as wide as I am tall! (lol) He’s seen me watch Say Yes to the Dress and usually just walks out the room. But I don’t think he cares what I wear. My actual dress is a chiffon sheath with a little ruffle at the neckline. So I didn’t totally lie to him 😉
@linnylou_88: yes. this sort of thing was the intial catalyst to me making the final decision to follow through with my dress regret and get a different dress. I wasn’t loving my dress anyway, and upon showing FI 2 dress *styles* one mermaid and one ball gown he said he prefered the ball gown style.
My first was a fit and flare (it was considered dropped waist but it was def closer to a mermaid) and my second is a dropped waist so I still have a bit of the form fitting uptop but lots of poof on the bottom.
FI and I have night and day preferences when it comes to wedding gowns. He hates lace and loves satin. I love lace and hate(Ed) satin. Satin has now grown on me a little since he likes it so much. He wants a full ball gown. My biggest thing when looking at dresses was NO ball gowns. To compromise a little, I’m looking at dropped waist ball gowns with satin and some lace detailing.
I was joking around the other day and google image searched “wedding dress” and showed my FI the page. Luckily he hated big poofy dresses and liked more simple dresses (my dress is veeerrry simple).
Although I suspect that my dress doesn’t emphasize my bottom eough for his tastes – this was the picture that stood out to him.
No, i didn’t bother showing him anything. The dresses always look so different on the models, and it wasn’t worth the risk of being upset if he hated a style I loved.
I told my Fh what dress I wanted, but he said he wanted a “big,fluffy bottom with feathers or ruffles”. I was um no…. Went and tried on something similar and actually liked it lol. I thought I wanted soft lace and sheath like. Nope..my FH changed my mind 🙂
Mine was somewhat accidental. We went to a wedding expo because we wanted to talk to a few photographers that were there, and of course, there were bridal salons with a booth as well. They all had several dresses out, and he walked past over a dozen and all he said was ‘hate it, awful, what the hell IS that, gaudy, ugly’. And then he walked past this gorgeous modified mermaid/A-line lace dress and stopped, looked at me, looked at the dress and said ‘I like this one’. Which luckily, was almost the exact dress that my mom loved and my best friend loved. It’s weird because they all picked the same style of dress without any input from me or the other two. So I have an appointment and I’ll be trying it on soon enough. Assuming it looks good on me, that’s probably my dress. I think it’s kind of a sign.
I casually showed FI a picture of my dress before I had decided to buy it. I didn’t tell him I was considering it. He said he didn’t like it. When I went back to the salon and tried it on again I loved it it so much I bought it anyways 🙂 I know he’ll think it’s great when he sees me in it and won’t even remember the picture.
Our entire dress conversation before he saw me in it as I came down the aisle:
Me (before shopping): Let me guess, you want something super form fitting and sexy
Me: Well, I feel fat so I don’t want anything too tight, so you’re going to have to deal w/ an a-line
Him: What’s an a-line?
Me (after shopping): Well…you win…the tighter dress looked better on, prepare yourself to be blown away
Him: I knew it.
I never showed him dresses I liked (online or in magazines, I only had one shopping trip and bought my dress on the spot, so there was no chance to show him actual dresses I tried on, but I wouldn’t anyway)
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