Post # 1
Ok so I’m really excited about getting married in my parent backyard without rules or guidelines where I can just be myself. However I’m having a hard time with how formal it should be. My FH really thinks that everyone will expect plastic plates and although I disagree but I’m not sure if we need to rent fancy dishes and the budget is pretty tight. I had this inspiration yesterday that we could buy bright plastic dishes like those people use by the pool. It reminded me of one of our first dates when he picked me up all dressed up and we ended up eating pizza at the mall! Is this an ok idea or am I just going crazy trying to mix my idea of the wedding with his and my mom’s!
Post # 3
Congratulations on going for a wedding that fits you. I had originally hoped for a back yard wedding myself.
I was thinking that people might expect (or are used to) paper plates and cups for a low-key backyard wedding, so I’m not sure where you were going with the idea, but I hadn’t thought about plastic. We ended up mixing it up and going for Elegant BBQ. We rented basic plates, linens, glasses and flatware to add a fancy element to the otherwise down-home BBQ feel. It was a little unexpected and worked within our budget. However, it might not be for everyone. You might want to take a look at pricing, guest size, and availability.
1. How big is your guest list?
2. Are there enough plastic plates available for your guest list? (Otherwords, would that require driving around to several different stores, ordering them online etc)
3. How does buying plastic stack up against renting plates?
Hope this helps!
Post # 4
You can buy those plastic plates that look exactly like real plates and people won’t realize the difference until they pick it up. Masterpeice makes some great ones and they come in with silver or gold trim.
Post # 5
I don’t know if this helps, but I recently went to a backyard wedding where they did the mix-and-match china and silverware (some from relatives, some from the church, some from the community center), and it gave it a real home-y feel. My one word of caution with this is to make sure you have enough – they ran out! But it was a really cool, simple, personal touch that at first thought seems disjointed, but really came together nicely.
If it’s not in the budget, I wouldn’t recommend renting. Paper and/or plastic would be suitable for something really low-maintenance, and the bright platic plates you’ve been thinking about might be nice if the colors work.
What are you serving? That could determine the overall look and feel, too.
Good luck!! Sounds really fun!
Post # 6
Thanks so much for the help! I’m much less stressed about the whole thing now. Its funny how you get so wrapped up in things you really don’t care about. It turns out its cheaper to rent dishes than buy plastic ones that aren’t the kids party plastic. I like the idea of mix and match so I might see what I can do but the rental place also takes them back dirty which is tempting… I’m sure my family would appreciate not being left with all the dirty dishes. We’re still working on the menu but its going to be catered by a friend who used to work in the catering business for cost! Aren’t friends amazing.
I’m going for a fun atmosphere but I’m a little worried about taking away from the formality of the ceremony since there won’t really be much transition between the two. I’m sure I’ll figure it out. The Weddingbee has been a really great resource.