Post # 1
My younger sister is being my bridesmaid later this year. she has taken no interest in the wedding, been off with me about the dresses and generally doesnt give a sh*t about my getting married.
Now she split from her boyfriend about 4months ago so me and my other half didnt intend on inviting her with a guest as shes not in a relationship and I dont want a stranger at my wedding!
Well i saw some family today and she had told them that she is bringing her ex to the wedding!?? I had to call and talk to my mum and make it clear that if she wants him there she can pay for him!
Am i out of order? please be honest, if she was making more of an effort with me as a person i think id be more enthused for her to have him there – but she is very selfish and generally doesnt make contact with me unless she has to!
My mum said to be that it was better to have him there as he knows my family than someone we dont know, and i told her we had no intention of inviting her with a quest! if shes not in a relationship why would we spend £80 on a person for her to bring!
I have to admit I am quite mad about all of this, as this has made me feel all bad and selfish & i am not a bad person, but this wedding is costing us a fortune & at the end of the day she should have asked us if she wanted to still bring someone and not just tell my family she is!!
Post # 3
Considering you still have more than 9 months until your wedding, I wouldn’t worry about this for a while. Anything can happen in that amount of time. Their relationship could change and they could get back together or she could find someone else and start dating them. My wedding is a few weeks before yours and I’m certainly not stressing over these types of details yet.
Post # 4
I am sorry but I kind of disagree with pp. I’m very cut and dry though so maybe not the best person for tactful advice. I would tell her exactly what you suggested. Having an extra person there isn’t free. It isn’t even cheap. And you can’t pay $80 for some random person who isn’t even in a stable relationship with her. They will have 364 other nights to be together while not on your dime.
Post # 5
I think the date situation is a problem you could put on the back burner. A lot can change in 10 months. Maybe they’ll be back together officially, maybe they’ll no longer be speaking… who knows. You have some time to let the situation hopefully resolve itself.
Post # 6
thank you all for your comments i know it is ages away and i should just wait, but i feel rather annoyed that she expects certain things, without making any effort with me as her sister or with the wedding!! just feel bit upset with her i think
Post # 7
Did you talk directly to your sister about this issue? You could have a little chat with her and in the same time tell her that you are not really satisfied about her attitude as a bridesmaid.