(Closed) Disinviting Guests: Do or Don't?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Bride2Be929:  I have a very low tolerance for bullsh*t so that this point I would just put them out and cut them from your life.

“These past few months have shown me that our friendship is not what it used to be. Furthermore, I am deeply hurt over what you have been saying out me and our wedding. I think it is in our best interest for you to step down from the wedding and we go our separate ways in life”

Block their numbers, their email, the FB and have someone at the wedding ready for them if they try ti cause problems.

Post # 4
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5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

How long have you known these people?  What are they saying about you behind your back? 

Post # 5
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3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@LuvMySailor:  I agree 100%.  You don’t need to be surrounded by their negativity on one of the happiest days of your life!  They are the ones choosing to be immature and stoop to such a low, low level.  I saw cut them out and move on.

Post # 6
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I agree with LuvMySailor…..I would cut the MOH and the BM out the wedding! 

Post # 7
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270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Yeah that is horrible! I wouldn’t have them there wedding no mind as BMs! They are supposed to be your supporters and friends. People who do that are not friends, I would get rid of them, from your wedding and life

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No you cannot uninvite their SOs if you are keeping them in the wedding.  Your best bet is to cut them out of your life permanently and not have any of them in or at the wedding.  If you’re not willing to cut them out of your life permanently for this then I don’t honestly see how you can simply uninvite them.  

Post # 9
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1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Before uninviting anyone, I’d be curious as to what they have to say.  Can you call/email asking why their SOs are being such a-holes?  

Post # 11
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1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Good GAWD!  What a nightmare.  Um yeah, this deserves to be said aloud.  You have every right to explain your concerns and advise that he’s no longer invited to your wedding.  

My concern is that your MOH will freak out and say she’s not going either.  So I would just say, brace yourself for that reaction… I’m wishing you lots of luck.  You don’t deserve this stress right now.  🙁

Side note, this guy has some serious mental problems.  He sounds almost paranoid schizophrenic.   

Post # 12
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705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 1993

Uh yeah, I’d tell these people they are no longer a part of my wedding, or my life.  They’re not worth keeping.

Post # 13
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11753 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh god! You need to drop them from your lives immediately.  You can’t fix your friend whatever she is going to.  It’s pretty clear she’s in denial about her SOs drug use (maybe even doing drugs herself).  I say ditch them all!  It’s a recipe for disaster!

Post # 16
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270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think you need to meet with your MOH by yourselves. You need to confront her and say she has said some pretty hurtful stuff about you. (Whether her SO said it and she commented is irrelevent) Maybe she is stuck in this relationship and doesn’t know what to do and would appreciate your help, or maybe she has just changed.

It is sad, when you mention all the things you have been through, but sometimes we need to move on. Only you know the dynamics of your relationship with her.

However, if someone, no mind my supposed BEST FRIEND was making “comments on how they cant wait till its over, that its such a burden on them, that theyre only in it for the free food and booze, that our relationship and soon to be marriage is a joke,”

and she didn’t see anything wrong with this, then im afriad she would be gone.

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