I’ve stuggled to get this far with them, while my FI would like them to be out of our lives let alone the wedding. I’ve been friends with my MOH since preschool. We’ve gone through a lot, lived to together, spend holidays with each others families – pretty much like sisters so It’s really hard for me to completely drop her as a friend. She is also our son’s God Mother, which makes it twice as difficult. Im not too sure why there is this huge change in her attitude towards me, but its been extemely hurtful none the less.
They’ve made comments on how they cant wait till its over, that its such a burden on them, that theyre only in it for the free food and booze, that our relationship and soon to be marriage is a joke, etc. Now, I can handle comments like that, even ones about my realtionship being a “joke”, but when you go and say something to the effect that my FI has a pretty serious drug habbit and go spreading it around, thats over the line.
It is actually the MOH’s SO that is the one who has made this accusation, he whom my FI hasn’t really cared for from the begining, mind you he’s only been around twice. The first time we had them over for dinner and drinks and it was quite ovbious that something was going on. Let’s just say he didn’t seem like himself. Now, my MOH has not kept it a secert, by any means, that her SO has had some trouble in his past, if you get my drift, but had gotten back on the straight and narrow. Now, Im not saying he was back to his old ways, but it seemed that something was off. Well, my FI said he didn’t really care for him or felt comfortable having him in our home, around our son, with im acting the way he did. I agreed something didn’t seem right, but begged him to give him another chance as I really wanted my best friends SO to get along with my FI so that we would have another couple friend to hang out with. Well, after lots of begging he agreed that maybe it was just that night and that he would set something up for all of to do.
So my FI bought 4 very nice seats at a MLB game, bougt a bunch of food, drinks, etc. and asked them to come with us, our treat. They agreed and so we went. We grilled out, talked and having a good time, things seemed to be going really well. We headed into the game and took our seats. My FI turned to me and said maybe we had just gotten the wrong first impression and I agreed. Well about half way through the game the boys went to go get us some drinks. Some time had gone by and my FI returned alone, with no drinks and with an unsettling look on his face. He sat down and I asked what was wrong and where the SO was. He said the SO had met up with some “friends” and that it was something he didnt feel comfortable discussing at that moment, but just know our previous suspissions had been confirmed. About 30 min later the SO showed back up and when my MOH asked where he had been he said he had gotten lost and that my FI had just ditched him. We said noting and continued on watcing the game. Then is when the SO started exhibiting some strange actions. He would flip out, then cry, then “go to the bathroom” for a long period of time and continued this patterned trough the rest of the game. We headed back to our car and prepared to take them home. Thats when things got even stranger. The SO was screaming and speaking, but nothing made sense. My FI and I grew even more conserened to the point that he spoke to my MOH and asked if she was going to alright and safe with him once we dropped them off. She acted as if nothing was going on and that everything was normal and laughed it off like we were crazy for being worried. Needless to say, we were more than ready to get home and have this day come to an end.
A few weeks later, my MOH called me to tell me that her SO wanted me to know that MY FI was doing some pretty heavy drugs at the game and that people were talking about it. I laughed at first, thinking she was joking, but then was shocked when I realized she wasnt. I was left confused and a little PO’d after getting of the phone, realized that A: if “people” were disccussing this then this was obviously spread by them on top fo the fact that either she was in such a delusion that she really belived it or didnt want to believe it may have been him trying to defect his actions on to us. Either way, it opened my eyes and saw that this is not the friend I once knew. I’ve had to distance myself, a lot, after this insident and feel quite uncomfortable having him there at the wedding. Its quite clear, to me, that somethihng is going on with her, with them and Im worried if I do drop both of them or just him that is may be a the beginning to a horrible spriral downwards, but I also have to consider my family and what is best for us. I am just so torn at this point.
Thanks for letting me get all of that off my chest, long I know, but I guess I felt the need to further explain the situation. 🙂