- Blog
- Bios
- Boards
- Classifieds
- DIY
- Gallery
- Vendor Reviews
- Shop Weddingbee
Weddingbee boards
I guess just what you've already tried to do/done - say, "I'm sorry, the reception is adults only, but I'd be happy to arrange childcare for the evening."
Although I am not a fan of lying - you could fudge a little and say that your vendor or bartending contract prohibits minors from attending events that primarily serve alcoholic beverages after a certain time. Then, volunteer the childcare. This way, it doesn't come off as "I don't want your brats there", and more of a "they won't be allowed in" feel so he will know for sure not to bring them. Good Luck!
Blame it on the venue! 
We told my mom to mention (if anyone should grumble about the no-kids rule) that it was not a kid-friendly (i.e. unsafe for kids - it really was!) venue. Also, she said she'd told a couple people that we were on a very tight budget, and we just could not have any more people.
When we were scouting venues, we considered some museum spaces, so our "excuse" then was going to be that it just wasn't an appropriate space for children.
Having our moms say "You just can't do that" took a lot of pressure off.
I remember asking a friend if I could bring a date (since I'd have to travel a loooong distance to the wedding), but she said no. Then a week before she said I could. I didn't go. So maybe keep that as a consideration for the singles coming from OOT and who may not know a lot of people there. But also, I really wasn't offended when I asked, it was one of my first wedding invites and the RSVP card didn't say how many seats were in my name. So be extremely direct, honest, nice and stick with your gut.
Definitely emphasize the child-unfriendliness of the venue, and the fact that it is more of an adult type party (mention the cocktails).
As for your +1 rule, one thing to consider is that couples can be long-term and serious without living together. Obviously, your invites have already gone out, but I see a lot of people on here post about this as their rule. There is something b/t flavor of the week and cohabitating.
You must log in to post.
| Visit our sister sites | eHarmony Online Dating |
eHarmony Advice Dating Advice |
Project Wedding Wedding Songs |
JustMommies Pregnancy Calendar |
Create the honeymoon of your dreams.
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| aussiebee | 6 |
| janetsnakehole | 5 |
| simpleandchic | 4 |
| j_jaye | 4 |
| Rivendeler | 4 |
| MabelleBliss | 3 |
| MrsOliveBird | 2 |
| MrsMSmith | 2 |
| Adalita | 2 |
| bonkeyball3 | 2 |
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| simpleandchic | 2 |
| MrsOliveBird | 1 |
 Myrnac13 |
1 |
My DF and I are having an evening wedding (cocktails, actually) at a warehouse in a "trendy" part of town. The evening starts at 7pm, the wedding's at 8pm and then the reception...all in the same place. On our RSVP card, we've listed "Adults Only Event" and on the website I've been very clear about only grown-ups at the wedding. (I even offer to find babysitters for out of town guests!) We are also not a particularly "child-friendly" couple...no babysitting duty for us.
One of our guests RSVPed in person and then told us that he had his children for the wedding weekend, so he might be bringing them to the wedding. I told him that we're having an adults only event, but I really stumbled on how to be nice, but not have him bring his kids.
I've also had friends try to invite dates to the event. That worked out a little bit better, when I told her "no". (Our rule was that you had to be married, engaged or living together for us to invite a partner we didn't know. We thought this would cover any guests in non-traditional relationships.)
Does anyone have a good, polite and quick answer to disinvite the uninvited?