Post # 1
I was just wondering…Does anyone here dislike the person your FI picked to be the best man?
I can’t stand ours. He is selfish and rude and it makes me sick that he wil be sitting at our table…and he’s my future brother in law!! My FI’s mom made him pick his brother. I think it’s ridiculous since he is a freeloader (lives with us and hasn’t pais rent in over a year, completely unappreciative of that and acts like he owns the house. He throws tantrums when I put stuff in what he considers his bathroom. He’s just all-around selfish.
I was just wondring if anyone had a similar situation where they also did not like their best man?
Post # 3
Oh no! I’m sorry to hear that. I wouldn’t want to trade my best men for anything at all, they’re like brothers to me!
Post # 4
That’s terrible! How does your FH feel about it? I’m sorry it’s stressful!
I really like our BM, he’s my FFIL! FH didn’t have enough *close* friends to match the 4 BMs I wanted, and we wanted symmetry (I’m ocd, leave me alone :P), so he asked his dad. He was really honored, so it worked out great! Tho I find it amusing I get to put my FFIL in a fuchsia tie, he’s so totally not the type to ever wear pink!
Post # 5
OH no. So sorry. I think I would be more concerned about getting him out of the house. He seems pretty ungrateful and immature. I would have a talk with FI about that one.
Sorry, I’m not in your shoes. I liked my husband’s best man. I would think just letting it go would be best. Maybe have your FI proof read his toast before giving it. That’s about it.
Hopefully when he gets on his own two feet, he’ll learn somethings and become more likeable. But I would want him out of my home and not freeloading. Good luck.
Post # 6
Wow! If I were you, I’d let him know that once the ring is on, he’s out! It’s not like you need him to help you make rent, since he isn’t paying! Once he’s out, you and your FH/DH will be able to have more money for a bigger home, a family, remodeling, etc. In the mean time, since he’s your FH’s BM already, I’d bite the bullet. However, your FH needs to know how you feel, and he needs to pre-read the BM’s speech.
Starting off with 3 people in a new marriage = not a good idea. That is precious time for you and your Hubby, not his freeloading bro!