Post # 1
Now don’t get me wrong. I love tattoos. I even have some of my own. In tasteful, easy to cover spots. However, I like some strapless gowns for my maids. Of the three, my best friend/MOH and another girl both have tattoos on the front half of their bodies, above the neckline for strapless dresses. The one girl has sunflowers on her shoulders and my MOH has this… odd saying across her collarbone.
I have no problem with tattoos showing at my wedding. It’s who the bridal party is. Most of us have them and I have frogs that might be peeking out of the edge of my dress.
Can I ask my MOH to cover up her word tattoo but not the other girl? I like the sunflowers and think they’re appropriate to be shown off, especially at an outdoor wedding like mine.
I do realize that etiquette says I can’t ask her to change her body for me. And I also realize my date is almost 2 years away. But she knew what I wanted the dresses to be and didn’t even ask if she was going to have to cover it up for my wedding.
Sorry, if I rant a little bit about this. I just dislike this giant collarbone tattoo that has become this cleavage call no matter what she wears.
Post # 3
I would ask her if you HATE it. What does it say?
Post # 4
You should have thought about this before you chose their dresses. It’s too late now. There is no polite way to tell someone “I really hate your tattoo, and I wanted it covered up for my wedding”. You’re only going to come off as a bridezilla.
Post # 5
I would choose appropriate dresses; maybe a different one for each girl. It is not fair to ask one to cover up and not the other one.
Post # 6
If you don’t want your MOH to have a gigantic tattoo on her collarbones, don’t ask someone to be a MOH if they do. Problem solved!
Post # 7
Honestly, unless the tattoo says something offensive (and I mean REALLY offensive) it would be unfair to ask her to cover it up. I’m curious what exactly it says but at the same time, unless it is something that would be censored in the daily newspaper, my insinct says you should just let it be.
Post # 8
Its only one day of her life….she should cover it up. people dont realize that that these pictures last forever!! you dont want to look at your pic withyour grandkids and have you MOH standing up there with words going across her chest. i think that she should be fine, you not asking her to remove the tattoo permently, just cover it up with a little foundation or whatever the case may be
Post # 9
To me, its offensive for a wedding. It says “Love is such a beautiful lie.”
Post # 10
@FurysSin: Yeah, usually I feel like you can’t tell them to cover it up but that saying is a bit contrary to the sentiment you want at your wedding. Maybe you can get a different style of dress?
Post # 11
Since she’s the MOH, maybe you could sneakily solve your problem by having her wear a different style of dress from the other girls, to “be more special”… or just chose a style that will cover it for all of them. you can find nice enough dresses like that. It would be really uncomfortable and icky to have cover-up smeared all across your chest, and as a BM I’d probably 1. be peeved day-of because of that and 2. be offended that you asked me to do it. it’s one thing to ask a girl to wear a certain dress for you, but it’s different when you ask her to change her body.
Post # 12
I know a girl that has a tattoo in the same spot that says Darkness is the heart of all mankind… For a second I thought maybe it was the same person. lol. I don’t have any advice that hasn’t already been mentioned but now I really want to get a tat across my chest… hmm =D
Post # 13
It’s just the one tattoo on her. All of her tattoos are visible with strapless dress and I don’t care about them. Not even the silly Hogwarts crest. This one just feels over the top to me.
@Butterbee: I like that idea, I think I’m going to use it. Now to find a dress with a pretty, and high enough neckline.
As a side note, is it bad that I posted this on The Knot and feel like I got better, less snarky comments here?
Post # 14
@FurysSin: I was with PPs about not being able to ask her to cover it up…then you posted what it says. Considering that, I think she should understand why you wouldn’t want it showing on a BM at your wedding.
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@FurysSin: people on the knot are kind of mean =/ theres some amazing people here on the bee… helpful, fun and entertaining…. oh yes and a lot of funny ones too!