Post # 1
So, yesterday, FI called me with news he didn’t get this promotion he was really hoping for, and was SOOOOO down. Well, I was exhausted from the week, but I knew that he needed a pick me up–maybe I misjudged him–but I, of course, thought it would make him feel much better if I showed up at his house (two hours away–was coming for the weekend anyway) in nothing but a trench coat and lingerie on. So I did. Schemed about where/how to change, etc. So I show up at his door, he gives me a hug and a kiss and then he takes me all around his house showing me all the stuff he’s been working on during the week. After about 20 min. of this, I start thinking…he is so clueless. So I start flashing some leg, and he still is unresponsive. Then I walk down the stairs when he can clearly see up my coat and he goes, “I knew you had nothing on as soon as you got here.” I was like…oh. And then I said, “Yeah, I thought I would seduce you…” and he goes, “You better get better at seducing.”
Ouch. Needless to say, nothing happened after that. I changed into sweats. Been here all night. Ain’t had sex. I don’t want to at the moment…given the response I got.
Any insights? Thx.
Post # 3
Aww. I hate when that happens! I think women are sometimes too subtle in their seduction. You probably would have been better off just walking in the door and immediately dropping the coat, lol. Try being more overt next time and see if that helps. Men aren’t as smart as us 😉
Post # 4
Yeah that’s kind of a disheartening response… I don’t know about insights. Maybe just stress? Either way I’d be highly upset.
Post # 5
Maybe he’s just not in the mood after getting such bad news, I wouldn’t take it too personal.
Post # 6
Yeah, I would say next time, immediately drop the coat rather than walking around the house with him…
Post # 7
Aww that kinda sucks.
I bet he was just stressed… don’t feel too shabby about it.
Next time show up in a parka and snow pants and make a joke about trying harder to seduce him 😛
Post # 8
I’m so sorry 🙁 I know how it feels. You want to just walk in and drop the coat but you’re so worried maybe you won’t get the reaction you hope for, your mind starts racing, etc. So you wait…. which dampens the mood. bleh. He just had a bad day. I’m sure he’ll put the moves on you sooner or later 😉
Post # 9
oh my f-ing god! Are you kidding me? He said that? I would have been so pissed I would have given him a good crap flinging and then left.
And who the hell are men to say that anyways? Half the time they thinking unbuttoning our pants is seduction (not with my FI thank god. He’s French and is a master of suduction)
I mean.. he probably just wasn’t in the mood so he was blowing your off. THAT is okay, but not insulting you.
Sorry… I’m a fiesty woman and I’m ticked off for you!
Post # 10
I wouldn’t take it personally, either.
Lots of men (and maybe your FI is one of them) don’t feel hugely sexual when they’ve had a professional setback.
Maybe have a chat with him and ask what would make him feel better in these sorts of situations and let him know that the way he responded was a bit harsh.
Post # 11
Ok first off A+ for effort!!!
Now any other day he probably would have been all for that. He was prolly just still down from the lack of promotion. Dont let this get you down. You both had a long day him obvioulsy and you driving.. After a long week. I wouldnt stress over this to much it happens.
Post # 12
Since you planned to seduce, the action was up to you. Not him to respond to your leg showing.
What seducing means to him: you come in, drop your coat grab his head, pull his hair a bit and pull him in for a long hard passionate kiss, grab his package and go from there. Now if you get turned down from that… then there’s an issue.
Post # 13
@Oneeleven: I second this!
I’d be rather pissed, too! Of course, my FI is really good at seduction as well, and, welllll…. I’ve learned my own techniques 😉
When all else fails, I’ll toss my hands and go “well, FINE! Be that way! *I’m* going to bed!” and act insulted as I strut my stuff to towards the bedroom….. he typically catches me, kisses me, is laughing and then teases me about it. We’re weird, I know! But it works 😉 especially when nothing else works.
I can understand and see him being upset about loosing out on the promotion. However, that’s NO reason to insult you, especially after having the courage to SHOW UP IN NOTHING BUT LINGERIE!!!!! Geez. Rude, nasty, and totally uncalled for! Especially if he “knew” you weren’t wearing anything else.
Do not blame you at all for not feeling up to anything, especially after that verbal slap to the face.
Post # 14
@vmec: lmao! yeah, that would fit several guys I know! LOL!
sorry your seduction didn’t work out, OP! Hopefully there will be a next time for you to “perfect” your technique (or at least do something that HE would call “better”….)
Post # 15
Yea, I wouldn’t take it personally… surprisingly men are sometimes just really not in the mood. my FI is generally a touchy feely person and is always trying to seduce me. but there have been times that I could probably dance naked in front of him and he just wouldn’t really care LOL… Sure, it hurts when you have basically been “rejected” but sometimes it happens.