Post # 1
Have any of you heard of a display shower before? If not, here is a brief description: guests bring unwrapped gifts which are displayed on a table. A card with the person’s name giving the gift is placed in front of each gift and the table is decorated with random stuff like candles, flowers, etc. When it is all set up guests walk around the tables of gifts to ohhh and ahhh.
My FMIL is throwing one of these for me. She is a HUGE proponent of these types of showers as is the rest of his family. They “don’t want to sit there bored watching someone open gifts.” I have faced my fate and accepted the fact that the shower is going down this way but I just feel so unsettled. I feel like it’s rude to display all of my gifts. I don’t know how to act when I walk past the tables. I mean it’s kind of like “hey guys, look at all the stuff I got!” I don’t know how to thank people either. It just all feels so awkward to me.
Has anyone had a display shower or been to one? What are your feelings/opinions about them? How do you thank people?
Post # 3
I have never heard of this. I’m not sure how I feel about it. I mean, when you’re opening presents it’s a big show of “look what I got” anyways, so to that effect, it’s sort of similar. BUT as a guest, I like to see the reaction of the person opening their gift and the surprise of it. Plus opening gifts is fun and as the guest of honour I wouldn’t want to give that up, LOL!
Post # 4
I’ve never even heard of that, and yes it sounds like it could be hard for the bride to manage. I understand not wanting to sit through all the gift unwrapping.
Maybe you could do something else that’s fun but more easy to manage.
Like, the guests sit in a circle each with a gift that they did not bring. One the count of three everyone opens the gift they’re holding. Then you go around the circle and the person holding it says what it is and guesses who brought it. After people ooh and ahh and guess, the person who brought it reveals themselves and you thank them.
Makes it go fast but it’s still fun and everyone sees the gifts without it being too awkward.
Post # 5
Noone in my family has heard of a display shower either. It’s kind of funny how my family thinks it’s a ridiculous idea and his family thinks it’s the best idea since sliced bread! Like you, I also enjoy watching them open gifts, it’s what you do at a shower. I mean it’s like not blowing out candles on your birthday.
Post # 6
I personally love the idea of a display shower. I am so very uncomforable opening gifts infront of others though. I would just thank everyone as you greet them and say how excited you are that they came and how thankful you are for their thoughtfulness. I have never had one though, I just like the idea of not having to open gifts infront of everyone. 🙂
Post # 7
I’ve heard of them but could never do it. My family is fairly traditional and they would not like being told how to give a present. My cousin attempted to have a gift card shower. She managed to get like 3 giftcards and my aunts made a point the entire time to talk about how she was being “uppity”. Not a whole lot of tack in my family.
Post # 8
@Ellabellaxo: So what if your MIL made the gift opening part more fun for the guests? One thing I did at a friend’s baby shower I hosted was that I set a timer for a certain number of minutes, and whoever’s gift she was opening when the timer went off got a prize. At my shower, my mom did a game where everyone got a number when they came in. As I was opening gifts I would randomly ring a bell, pull a number, and they got a prize. It kept it lively 🙂 I just sort of gauged the ladies there and if they were looking bored I would grab the bell for a prize!
Post # 9
I did somethiung similar for one of my daughter’s. We just spread the word about not wrapping, but they could use bags and ribbons if they wanted. As gifts came in, we set them up on tables covered with sheer tablecloths. She still had a seat of honor, and the gifts were still brought to her. People were so clever with how they displayed them too! We had an ‘Around the Clock’ shower, so gifts were bought around the time they were assigned.
Here’s a few awkward pictures…
set of luggage from me and each was filled with gifts.
gifts set up on booths on the side
cakes and favors
My daughter made a joke out of doing something like this after her cousin’s shower that took 5 hours to open all gifts. I surprised her with it and everyone loved it! (It still took 3 hours).