Displeased to see Weddingbee editor's comments in NYT

posted 3 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 2
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285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Ok. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I don’t really think she said anything offensive. All of it seems pretty true. There is a lot of pressure put on brides by the media/popular culture to have this “perfect” wedding, and it isn’t realistic. It just leads to disappointment. 

Plus, It seems from your post that she wasn’t referring to you, so why get upset about it? 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

She’s right, you’re wrong.  Sorry.  It’s rude and controlling to dictate guests’ attire.  I have no idea what “festive attire” means, and I don’t own a hat.  I’m not sure what’s “fun” about being told what to wear.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

 

rahwaybride:  I would be highly annoyed with you if you tried to tell me what to wear to your wedding. Im an adult and I can dress myself and be trusted to wear appropriate clothing no matter what kind of event you are having. Sorry, but her comments weren’t offensive. You’re invitations were.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

rahwaybride:  Sounds like this just hit too close to home.  You saw yourself in her comments and are getting all defensive.  I’m not sure why you care what someone said in a NYT article – you’re being rude regardless of what she said.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t think she was typecasting all brides. I think she was making a generalized statment that is based in truth about a group of people. It’s the same as saying that girls who dress provocatively are looking for attention. Most of them are, yes, but maybe that’s not the case for all of them. I really wouldn’t worry about it if it doesn’t apply to you.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Honestly, it kind of just seems like you’re looking for something potentially controversial to criticize. That’s such a minor comment. She is just noting the trend of brides looking to the media and pinterest for wedding ideas. I don’t know how you can possibly be offended by that just because it doesn’t apply to you. She’s commenting on demographics of brides that she sees in the big picture, not you personally.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think she was making a general comment.  I don’t see it as offensive.  I am having as small and low key wedding as you can get and I still sometimes fall victim to the pinterest mentality.

Post # 12
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Honey bee

Yeah if any bride tried to control what I wore I would be pretty p’d off. I am a grown ass adult, I can read an invite, and take a view on what to wear and what is appropriate to the venue / situation. I think maybe you are the one that is out of line, but of course, you are entitled to your own opinion.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Country Club

I must be missing something, I dont see the big deal with the statement in the article. And while it may be “fun” for some of the guests to come with fun hats, Im sure some of the ones who will refuse to wear one will feel a bit left out (even if it’s their own decision not to wear what you suggest).  IMO, but either way don’t let all these get to you. Every one has a different opinion.

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think her comments were out of line, but I don’t think OP’s invites were rude either. No need to be nasty.

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