Post # 1
I’m getting married May 22 of 2010… yes… it’s only 47 days away!! And we are getting married at a summer cabin on the lake in upstate NY. Its in a really rural area and the camp is owned by my fiance’s family. The cabin is small and doesn’t have a large kitchen or many of the modern amenities so we were thinking about using the really high-quality plastic disposable dishes and metallic looking silverware and plastic cups for our cocktails, buffet, and bar.
Since the kitchen is so small, we figured it would be easier to do the disposables than to have the caterer have to rinse everything off and hire additional people because of the rented china. Plus, it is so much cheaper and we really need to cut wherever possible.
But I am sooo worried it will be really tacky. The disposables look really nice for, well, disposables. I mean, they look like real china and silverware. But the idea of it is what I am worried about. I don’t want guests to feel weird or offended by it.
Our reception is not super-formal though and almost all of our 175 guests are close family and friends that are not super snobby.
Has anyone used the disposables before? What was your opinion?
What is your general opinion of using them? What would you think as my guest?
Post # 3
I say go for it, I think that due to your venue, it would make total sence and not at all tacky. If you were getting married in a fancy hotel then I’d expect ‘real’ china, but if you got the good quality heavy duty plastic tableware then I probably wouldn’t even notice.
Don’t forget, your guests are coming to celebrate with you, not to to look for ‘tacky’ things. They will probably either not notice, or be impressed with the quality of the disposables.
So use them, its fine. 🙂
Post # 4
Also, I see you are new! Welcome to the hive!
Post # 5
We did a mixture–disposable plates, but very inexpensive stainless steel flatware. My theory was that for flatware, having it real actally affected usability, but that dispoable plates would work just as well as “real” ones.
If you are interested in the stainless steel ones, here are some links:
Post # 6
Not tacky – if the venue is very rustic. Or if it’s a very casual backyard wedding.
I think it doesn’t “fit” the venue as well if you use a more typical banquet hall type place.
Post # 7
I say go for it too!!!
Based on the venue and since it’s not super formal, I definitely wouldn’t mind.
Post # 8
I HATE plastic silverware…it always snaps, butter ends up on my dress, and it’s hard to eat with. But otherwise, it sounds like it fits your venue. But a real knife/fork would be nice…
Post # 9
I’ve been wondering about the same thing. We’re still a little torn about it, but think we’re going to go with these bamboo plates – they are biodegradable (thus better on the environment than plastic disposables) and go really well with our rustic theme.
I didn’t like the bamboo flatware that they sell – the plates seem high quality but the flatware made your food taste like wood – so I’ll probably use real flatware, like @roux posted (thanks for the links!)
I think you should be fine, but would recommend asking for a sample of the type of disposable you’re going to order first to ensure you are comfortable with the quality.
Post # 10
I have been to events that had the nice disposables and you couldn’t tell until you actually started using the utensils. They looked very classy. My only concern is if you are having chicken or beef that would need to be cut with a knife. It would be much more difficult to cut into it with a plastic knife. If you’re not, then I say go for it!!
Post # 11
I say go for it. If its close family and friends are they REALLY going to care? Especially if it isn’t a super formal event. I do agree with the above poster though that if you could do 1 real thing silverware should be it. Those links are for suuuuper cheap silverware so it might be worth it to just do real silverware and plastic cups and plates.
Post # 12
Shoot, I voted no, but meant yes! lol, oops!
Post # 13
Ditto 2ndBride: I have no problem with plastic cups (I’m using them!) and am ok with good plastic plates. Silverware, on the other hand, I’d really rather have real stuff–doesn’t have to be fancy, but plastic silverware just isn’t as functional sometimes.
I also have a personal issue with the plastic silverware thats silver colored–I think that ends up drawing more attention to the fact that its plastic, because you pick it up expecting it to be real, but then its really light and so you actually end up noticing more that its plastic, because of the mental mismatch. With clear plastic, the experience matches your expectations so you don’t think about it as much. The silver stuff does look nicer in a place setting, but I still don’t like it. But, I’m probably just weird.
I used cheap silverware from sam’s club–i think I got 180 forks and knives (no need for spoons) for about $100–they came in packs of 36.
Post # 14
A few months ago, I was very quick to respond to another bride asking the same thing – back then, I thought it was tacky, and felt that skimping on other parts of the wedding would be the better alternative. But now, I’ll say “No, it’s not tacky.”
If it’s what you can afford and what you wanna do, then do it. Guests shouldn’t judge and just be grateful to be part of it all. But I still stand by my old advice: consider other options (like IKEA since they sell cheap flatware or those cool wooden disposables) because although the nice plastic disposables are pretty to look at and looks great in pictures, you can feel the difference right away.
Post # 15
I agree with the above posters. I think if it matches the formality/informality of the wedding, you’re fine.
Post # 16
@farmersdaughter I am also using bamboo plates with real flatware, I really love the plates 🙂