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So I thought my in laws would be happy with the decision that we made of eloping but they arent.

I understand that we should have jobs (he has been unemployed for yr but getting unemployment and I recently got laid off a week ago) and have money saved to move out but right now times are tough and all that we have been through i feel that we should take it as a sign of all we have been through and just elope.

The responses we got were pretty shocking from his mom. "getting married wont fix the happiness in your life" ugh did i say it was going to? when did we say we were unhappy? She feels that we should have things planned but planned things sometimes never happen. We have been together for 3 yrs, engaged for 1 yr and i know hes the man of my dreams.

Ugh whats a girl got to do to get her in laws approval? Should we just elope and forget what they have said?

I know every guy and girl wants the inlaws approval, but I think how you want to get married is really up to you and your FI.  If this is something you guys really want to do, then go for it.  If you think it's something you could possibly regret later, think about it a little more.  I don't think parents should be the ultimate decision on how you 2 decide to start your lives together.  It's your marriage, not theirs.  Hope it works out!

We actually have an insurance together and we live with my parents and help them around the house. My parents are the one that think we should elope already since we basically act like a married couple so there like its nothing different but a piece of paper.

We will continue to live with my parents to help save money and when we are ready we will move out. We both have been looking for jobs but seems really tough to find something.

Im not sure about his unemployment though that i will have to check.

@ mimosa: Good point i like that a lot. But i want them to be there not for me but for my fiance.

@ bobbypinperals: some back story is that we were actually supposed to be married last yr but they (my in-laws) backed out on there share of the wedding details and ultimatly we were unable to have the wedding which i lost all of my deposit i had made at the venue, photographers, flowers and tuxs. We will invite them when we do decide to elope on a date but right now we were sitting down with them and letting them know that we were thinking of eloping.

@ MissAsb: yes it is so tough out there right now. advice i got from a friend was to print my resume on a little thicker paper so that when the employers see the stack they will see mine for sure since it will be thicker than the rest lol Im glad also that we arent living with the in laws either. They all have cats in which im deadly allergic. There response is that i dont have to come over lol great in laws i have and im looking forward to being part of there family haha

yea tell me about it! lol Now we just have to figure out when to do it. Im thinking about May or June in SF but im afraid in June it will be way to hot, tourists and i hear gay pride is June 27-28? Ill be wearing the Maggie Sottero SaBelle so i dont want to be sweating lol