Post # 1
Okay, don’t tell my Fiance this, but I figured out when he was going to propose and knew it was coming. We pretty much started sharing our money even before we were engaged, so I had access to his bank account and was in charge of making sure his bills were paid, etc.
Well, one day I saw the engagement ring purchase on there. I have to admit, I was getting anxious to get engaged and had started looking at his bank account often for said purchase. About an hour later, he changed his bank account password…little did he know it was too late.
It took about a week for the actual proposal to happen, but I figured it would happen the day it did because he had off of work that day and could “prepare” when I was at work. He took the time to make it sweet and surpising, and I just couldn’t tell him that I already knew. So, I acted surprised, but I’m not the best actor. And he even said I didn’t seem excited! Trust me, I was, but I would have probably seemed more so if it was truly surprised!
Looking back, I regret that I knew it was coming. I think I really kind of ruined the moment for myself. It was still very special, but I wish it was a surprise!
Anyone else have similar feelings?
Post # 3
Although I’m not engaged yet, I do know that the ring has been purchased and that he is planning to propose before Jan 1st. I am so so so excited to be engaged but I agree that some of the fun has been taken out of the experience. When I look back I wish I hadn’t found out that the ring was purchased but I guess I’ll just have to work on my surprised face 😉 lol!
Post # 4
Theredhead – Look at it this way, at least you don’t know exactly what day he is proposing so it will still be sort of surprising! Unless, of course, he waits until 12/31…Then you’ll pretty much know it will be that day. Good luck!
Post # 5
I think you’ll find that outside of the movies, the majority of girls know its coming. Just enjoy it. 🙂
Post # 6
@D0GL0VER: “Okay, don’t tell my Fiance this…” Ha! Too funny. I’ll be sure not to. 🙂
I understand what you’re saying. My proposal was a complete surprise and I think that really added to the moment. BUT, I also think your Fiance did the best he could and you should focus on what’s important – you’re getting married!
Post # 7
Mine will not really be a surprise either. I knew the day he ordered the ring, because he confirmed what metal I wanted. Then a few days later the charge is in our joint credit card. Then I accepted the FedEx package when it arrived. So… It’s absolutely coming and I am excited. I Know my reaction won’t be like “oh my god how long have you had this” haha or anything but I will be so happy to finally say I’m engaged after 6 years.
Post # 8
My engagement was not a surprise either. my fiance accidentally texted me a picture of the ring, trying to send it to one of my friends. Once I knew he had it, i practically forced him to put it on my finger. We had been together over 4 years and I was tired of waiting. Although the engagement wasn’t a surprise, we both love telling the store. It’s so much better than the cliche movie proposals. No offense to any bee that got one of those; I might have a different attitude if I had. Bottom line. Your’re engaged!!!!!! Take it a run with it. lol
Post # 9
Lesson learned, if you don’t want a surprise to be ruined, don’t snoop.
Post # 10
@KatyElle: Yeah, I guess I got a little anxious (after 7 years!) and didn’t realize how much I’d want it to be a surprise until it wasn’t one.
Post # 11
While moving my husband out of his old apartment, I accidentally found the box in a drawer! I didn’t have the heart to tell him. He proposed less than a week later, so of course I saw it coming. I know your feelings of disappointment, especially when you didn’t mean to see it! BUT–think of all of the opportunities he has to surprise you from this point on in your lives together. Even if your engagement had been a surprise, I’m sure he would have upstaged it sooner than later ; )