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Well my first guess would be stress. I have super disturbing dreams like that whenever I'm stressed out. Most often it will be in the form of a family member dying, but i've been chased with a machine gun by my cousin, thrown off a building, etc you name it. I always wake up and realize that even if I don't *feel* stressed I am about something. Then I sit and evaluate it, think i through, destress a bit, and I'm fine. That has always worked for me. A wedding is a stressful thing, even if you're happy about it. Are you nervous about money? the timeline? the guests? Try to work through what you're stressed out about and your subconcsious will hopefully let go of the doom and gloom.
If you think it through and you are really NOT stressed about anything then I would go see a therapist. You should be able to get an appointment within a week or two.
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You might want to see a sleep therapist about this. They might want you to stay overnight at their clinic so they can observe you sleeping to see if you have any unnormal brain activity. I was considering doing that when I was having night terrors that I couldn't remember happening but they went away on their own after I stopped planning the wedding and quit my job. Hope it gets better!
This is terrible to admit on here, but I think it might give clarity on the issue. So, here goes - taking one for the team: I've been engaged twice before. I know, I know. It was in college, and I was not in the right frame of mind. I got fairly close to both weddings actually happening before I called them off.
For all three (now) engagements, as I got closer the weird (not nightmares anymore) dreams started. For the first engagement (GOSH! I hate even saying that), it was practical nightmares: my veil was missing down the aisle, the flowers were the wrong shade. Even for this one, I had a dream about a yellow lace "reception outfit" as I referred to it. The reception was in a mall with Dance Dance Revolution on all of the escalators. Not scary in a physical sense, but definitely scary enough for why I was dreaming like that.
It's likely the stress. Being organizationally obsessed and highly type A, I like to think that it's my brain working out all of the worst case scenarios. But it's probably just the hype of everything coming down to a point, you know? It's not affecting my ability to get rest, but if it were I'd see a doctor. Because of day time anxieties, I am on xanax, as needed. I notice that when I take it at night, I sleep wonderfully...no dreams.
Hope that helps. Good luck with everything!!
I have horrible nightmares when I'm stressed. Usually I don't even realize I'm that stressed until I have sleep troubles. You may normalize the stress of wedding planning because you expect it but your body doesn't have a way to release the stress or anxiety.
I went to doctors and did a sleep study but what ended up helping me was acupuncture. You can get acupuncture by an intern in a school, at community acupuncture center and some insurance companies offers discounts on it.
If acupuncture isn't your thing, then make sure you are getting some calm time in your day. Yoga, meditation, some time where FI and daughter leave you alone to relax.
If it makes you feel any better, I had a dream last night that I WAS the murderer, and I was running from the cops. LOL!
I'm going to second DollyLava's suggestion of yoga - if you can do a nice relaxing sequence before bed, and maybe drink some calming tea (chamomile is always nice, sweeten w/ honey and you're golden!), see if that helps you any!
If not, seeing a therapist for a short time might help too, as it's likely caused by stress (even if you consciously don't feel stressed... this happens to me with my TMJ).
I think some kind of meditation before you go to bed might be helpful. Sometimes our dreams tell us how stressed we are in a way we don't recognize when we're awake. ;)
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Hi, hive - just thought I'd get some opinions about this. Lately, I've been having a number of really disturbing nightmares. I've dreamt I was in housefires, being raped, and witnessing murders. This has gone on for several weeks now, and I'm not sleeping very well. My relationship with my FI is wonderful, my daughter is fine - my personal life is great. My job/career is quite stressful, though, but no more so than it has been for years. I'm starting to wonder if these could be wedding-related (ours is in 7 weeks), but there is nothing in them to indicate that they could be.
I'm trying to decide to talk to my doctor about this, if I can even get an appointment anytime soon (I see an internal medicine guy at a very large university hospital). Or would you go see someone else? I just want normal sleep!
(And I'm not on any medication other than birth control, I don't smoke, and I don't usually drink more than 1 glass of wine at a time).