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We're not doing a bouquet or garter toss. We will have assigned seating as it's the norm in our group. Also, a small wedding party, and non-matching BM dresses, I'm having my BM's pick their own so I know they love them and can hopefully wear them again.
I guess we're ditching a lot of traditions because the only thing in the poll that we're doing is assigned seating (and even there, we're most likely only doing assigned tables). I'm personally not comfortable trying to figure out where to sit in open seating, and much prefer assigned tables, so that's the route we're going!
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The only thing that we're doing in the poll is matching bridesmaids. Because I have a large network of great girlfriends, I've asked my close gals to wear purple to the wedding--any shade they'd like--just as a way of singling them out for how important they've been to me.
I'm giving my bouquet to my mom because she's getting married next year and I don't plan on wearing a garter.
We did away with assigned seating because we're doing a cocktail reception. Our engagement party was like this--friends and family and everyone who's coming knows someone. People might break off into little groups--which is cool, but we want to encourage mingling. I throw big parties every year and this has never been a problem. We also did away with the DJ/Emcee--I don't like DJs being Emcees or having an Emcee that doesn't know us--so we've asked some of our special friends to do the announcing.
Actually we're pretty much doing all of them except for rice throwing. We're leaving on Monday morning for our HM. Pretty "immediate" if you ask me. We have 6 attendants on each side, assigned seating, a bouquet/garter toss, and favors. I'm sort of a stickler for "doing things right" and I'm relatively conventional when it comes to stuff like this, which drives my FI nuts because he says it's me being uptight. It's part of how I was raised though....I don't go against the grain very much so why now? 
I love everyonme else's creative wedding ideas that are non-traditional....but they aren't for me and it would be weird if something too untraditional popped up at my wedding.
You need a box for none ;) Unless bridesmaids all in different colored dresses, but the same bouquets counts as matching!
Wow, I only picked two of those! Didn't realize how many traditions I was shunning! Having a small wedding really changes things!
Ugh, my mother is driving me crazy about the bouquet toss. She says people will be expecting it. Freaking stupid that I'd have to get a 'stunt bouquet' for this. uber lame & I'm not doing it 
The only ones in your poll I am NOT ditching are assigned seating and favors. I'm kind of a control freak and want to know where everyone is going to be. With the favors, I am mostly doing them so I can do another project - oh, i guess and to give my guests a little something to say "thanks for coming to Hawaii to watch me get hitched" (but mostly for the project!) I cannot cannot cannot do the garter and bouquet stuff - no way am I chucking those gorgeous flowers and noone needs to see my thigh at my wedding!
The only stuff we're keeping is assigned seating and a big wedding party.
We are also ditching most traditions. Just assigned seating - to avoid confussion and I think guest sometimes prefer this. - i know I do
The only thing we DIDN'T ditch was favors! :) I'm not wearing white, he's not wearing a suit, we're not getting married in a church, we're not having a bouquet/garter toss, we're not having our guests throw rice (they are blowing bubbles though), we're not doing assigned seating (just assigned tables), we're not taking a honeymoon, we're not having a bridal party at all so the bridesmaids aren't matching. Our wedding is a representation of us so that's all I'm concerned about! :D
I saw that yahoo clip too. We're not doing assign seating or Immediate departure (we're leaving two days after our wedding). As far as the matching bridesmaids. I don't know about that. I'm thinking about just telling them to find something they like and give them the color to go by. And a budget price; my dad insists on buying all five dresses (that's including mine!) so I'm going to make it as easy as possible.
But it's one of those "Its your wedding. Do it how you want to" type deals. :)
i always wonder about immediate departures - i mean, the best parties happen AFTER the wedding half the time! why would you wanna miss that? Unless you have been waiting to do it until your wedding night, I can't think of why you'd jet off so quickly.
I think assigned seating or at least tables is a great idea - i feel awkward w/out a plan at weddings. They're too formal almost to have a little chaos like that, unless you're just doing appetizers or dessert bars etc. Especially if I don't know a lot of people, or don't have a date present. We also have a big wedding party - the more the merrier! but they can wear whatever they want or for the guys, my fiance bought their stuff as a gift so they didn't have to spend big bucks renting a used tux or lug along a suit etc.
That's funny! I never thought of our wedding as being that non-traditional. But we didn't do a single one of those things. :) We also ditched the first dance, and father daughter dance.
Edited to add: We did assigned tables but not assigned actual seats. Not sure if that counts.
Assigned seating is proper etiquette and has nothing to do with tradition. Tradition changes as the situation calls or by generation. Etqiuette is about making sure your guests are comfortable and does not change.
That's the only thing on the above list we're keeping. Matching dresses for bridesmaids would be nice to have but it won't be the end of the world if it doesn't happen.
We aren't having bridesmaids or groomsmen, no assigned seating, there will be no rice, and the whole thing is kind of non-traditional since we're marrying in Vegas in a quickie ceremony, having our honeymoon there, and then coming home a week later for the reception.
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I saw this article about doing away with wedding traditions:
http://food.yahoo.com/blog/foxyfestivities/20335/the-worst-wedding-traditions/
I generally think brides and grooms should be free to have the wedding they want and not be tied to traditions.
Of this list, the only one I disagree with is getting rid of assigned seating. At most weddings I've been to (even ones where I got stuck at a table of strangers) I prefer assigned seating to fending for myself.
What do you think? What traditions are you ditching? What traditions are worth keeping?